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Tell me about it! My mom drives me BATTY.
I LOVE, love, love my mother. Like you, I talk on the phone with my mama daily (if not more), we see each other a few times a week, and she has my girls over for a spend the night at least a few times a month. My husband loves her, she is doing amazing professional work, and I trust her deeply.
Still. She drives me up the darn wall. Now, if anyone ELSE were to criticize her, I'd have to eat them for breakfast.
ETA: My mom and I are very similar (what could be MORE annoying than THAT! ;-) I'd be willing to bet that, from the dawn of time, mothers and daughters have been bugged by each other. Doesn't mean I want to distance myself from her, share less with her, keep my kids from her, or change her. I LOVE her just as she is and am grateful for my relationship to her. She's my MOTHER. Her voice is like honey, the tea she makes magic, and her hugs more comforting than anything in the world. I hope, hope, hope that my girls will feel as close to me as I feel to my mother, even though they will, as adults, inevitably be annoyed by me and my (*cough*) perfection.