My EX HUSBAND...Thank god in heaven i don't have to deal with him anymore...did EVERYTHING contrary to what I asked. Including refusing to preheat pans.
And BELIEVE me, I ONLY asked when things were really bugging me, not just any little thing.
He wouldn't open shower curtains out to dry after showers (so they would mold), he wouldn't fill the Brita pitcher when he emptied it at night when I was in bed (so I would come down in morning bleary-eyed to get kids to school and I'd need to drain an new pitcher before making my coffee), he wouldn't fill the gas tank when it was on the warning light (so I'd be running late with kids to an apt. and we'd need a trip to gas station first), he wouldn't stop rearranging the cupboards (I'm the only one who cooked and I couldn't find stuff), he wouldn't stop letting underage kids ride in front car seat (dangerous and against the law).....you NAME IT..if I said, it, he wouldn't do it. We had a running joke when I really needed him to listen, I'd say, "I need you to ask Cristian (his best friend of 25 years) because you won't listen to me on this." That was code for, "Dude, I really mean it, it's a universally accepted fact".
He still wouldn't comply with anything though.
Whatever.
If your husband wants to cook like a dolt I guess you have to let him. As long as it frees you up to do other stuff and gets the job done.