Velcro

Is this another form of "I didn't like the answers I got so now I'm going to change my question" tantrum?

<sigh> we are never appreciated just when we need it most.
As far as the massage therapist, I have found that many (most?) of them are women, and I have also found that most men (my husband included) would rather not be massaged by a man. Who knows why, they probably feel funny about other men touching their bodies (men are weird that way.) I have had both, it makes no difference to me, I just want someone GOOD.
Try not to over think it.
And make sure you take some time for yourself this weekend. How about getting a massage? ;)

No, it wouldn't have bothered me. The woman was there in a professional context, not a sexual one. You make it sound so dirty that he "paid some woman to rub him at work"! I think you are making a mountain out of a molehill.

Good grief, I can't believe you changed your post. Pick the fuzzies out with your fingernails.

Deep breath here because you've taken this too personally. You had a tough crazy day and he just pushed your last button with this.

I have had massages from both men and women. They are PROFESSIONALS, certified in massage therapy. That's it. They are not whores. They work on your muscles, and that's it. I've actually been encouraging my husband to get massages to relax but it's not his thing, and I would actually assume that it would be a women because most massage therapists ARE women. If he got this at work, it was probably a chair massage, like the kind you see in the mall where the person sits on the weird chair with their face through the hole. They usually last 10-20 minutes max. A professional massage usually lasts from 30-45 minutes or longer and no office I know of would put aside space for something like that.

add: and most guys are SOO not comfortable with a guy massaging them. Women don't care, and there's no social stigma for them getting a same sex massage.

ADD2: Why did you change the question from the subject of "should I be bothered by my husband getting a massage at work after I've worked long and hard at home and made him a nice meal" to a question about velcro...really?

Tweezers will pick it out.

Would I feel uncomfortable about my husband receiving a massage from a professional massage therapist who happened to be a woman? Is that the question? It is hard to tell with all the info about dinner.

Anyway, in answer, no. Why would you?

ETA: Velcro, really? *Sigh*

No, I really would not be the least bit upset. I assume that this was a fully-clothed chair massage. I also assume that he was in plain view so there was most certainly not something sexual going on...

It sounds like you are more angry that he did not acknowledge your hard work creating a awesome meal for your family...

I think the fact that you were already overwhelmed when your hubby walked through the door is what made his massage announcement so hurtful/annoying to you. You took it too personally because no one noticed or acknowledged all the wonderful things you did, especially your beautiful meal. I get that way too sometimes and then come to realize I was already in "a mood" and regardless of what was said I was going to be upset. He got a massage at work and it was a woman....most men will request a woman because they get all weirded out if it's a guy rubbing their shoulders. So I wouldn't worry Suzyque. I'm sure you'll see you have nothing to worry about tomorrow. ; )

The meal prep, the running around, your son's behavior, your husband's grumpiness, and his getting a massage are all separate topics.

You wanted to be appreciated for all of the hard work you did today, you probably wanted/needed some relief and help with your son, and didn't get it when you wanted or needed it most.

Then to hear that your husband had a massage he enjoyed prior to hearing him give you a compliment tipped you over.

At face value, no, I would not have been upset if my husband had bought a (legit ;-) ) massage at work no matter the gender of the masseuse. I mean, he PAID her, because it was HER job. You were apparently busy. Plus it's not like it was a sensual massage. Unless I'm wrong and "massage" was a euphemism for "sex." In that case I'm super confused about why there was a "masseuse" at your husband's workplace.

Not at all. I suggest you don't say anything, and let your husband have his well-deserved massage. Unless this is a common event, or you have reasons to mistrust your husband, let it go.

Sorry, but jealous (insecure) people are really unattractive.

Added: Funny how your question and subject changed - would you like for us to change our answers to match? LOL!

Original:
Feed him sandwiches for a couple of nights and when he complains, tell him why you did it. Tell him that he appreciates the woman who came in and rubbed him in the office more than he appreciates the woman who cooks great food for him.

If he rants and raves at or discounts your feelings, continue with the sandwiches until he is humbled a bit...

Dawn

I think some guys would feel weird going to a guy for that.

I'm not sure if it would have bothered me . . . depends on the context I suppose.

Since your home is your work place, ask your husband how he would feel if you paid a male to come to your house and give you a massage, or even if you went to have a massage done by a male at a place of business. Let him know how you feel. He should know how it hurt you for him to do that, but don't tell him in anger.