The American Congress of Obstetrics and Gynecology just released a statement a month or two ago regarding VBACs. In that statement it encouraged doctors and hospitals to re-evaluate their anti-VBAC stance. It said that VBACs ARE safe and should be encourage over a repeat c-section. It even states that VBAC should be encouraged after 2 c-sections!!!
http://www.acog.org/from_home/publications/press_releases...
Doctors have taken a fear based and CYA stance on VBAC for years. Unfortunately this had led to a lot of misinformation and unnecessary c-sections. There is a less than 1% chance that your uterus will rupture during a VBAC. It goes up slightly with the use of pitocin but goes up IMMENSELY with the use of cervical ripeners like cervidil (and even more with the use of cytotec).
I have had 2 successful pitocin augmented labors! If it is done gently (i.e. the lowest dose given possible and then slowly increased if needed every hour or two) it can be done safely so don't let a doctor scare you into thinking you have to go into labor on or before your due date that's just more fear mongering and is a sure fire sign that your doctor does not actually support VBAC (since the MAJORITY of women will no go into labor naturally before 40 weeks). I went to 41 weeks with my son who is currently 10 months with no problems and other VBAC moms have gone longer.
You have done a great job in beginning to educate yourself on the facts of VBAC. If you would like to continue your research I really like these web-sites.
www.vbacfacts.com
www.childbirthconnection.org
and of course www.ican-online.org
I would also encourage you to seek out your local ICAN chapter and start going to meetings. These women will be a HUGE support to you in your emotional healing and also on the road to VBAC, They will be able to tell which doctors are the most supportive and which are not.
Good luck mama! If you have any questions are just want to talk feel free to message me.