Vasectomies Reversals

J.,

What were you before you became a born again Christian? Baptist, Catholic, Methodist, Presbyterian? That principle is taught in the bible of all Christian religions. Procreation is what we are put her for, they are blessings from God. However, one point you are missing in all of this is that God gave us all a free will, to make our own choices and hopefully to make the right ones. What was the reason you and your husband decided to have the vasectomy? Don't answer me, answer yourself. Were you good people before you became born again?? there was a reason you did what you did, financial, physical whatever. Has that changed? God doesn't want you to be perfect. He doesn't expect it. If you find one perfect person in your church I would be happy to meet them. You do the best you can with what knowledge God gives you. Sometimes you make mistakes, sometimes those mistakes can be reversed, sometimes they can't, but he forgives them no matter what.

I am one of those women you were talking about that could not have children. I lost 5 before I had my daughter, I have lost 5 since her. I even had an ectopic explosion. I wanted 6 kids when I got married. Now I have 3 stepdaughters, 5 step grandchildren and my own dauther who is 5. I count my blessings. I now know that if I had all the children I wanted I would be in a bad situation. My husband had 2 minor and 1 major stroke 2 1/2 years ago and is now disabled. I would not be able to handle all the children plus him if I did have those children. That is my blessing from God. He only gives you what you can handle. You and your husband made a decision 2 years ago for a reason. Think of that reason and think of your situation. The only way you can find out about the reversal is to talk to your doctor. It may be irreversalbe. If in the end you can't have more kids, think of it this way, there are so many children in this world that need a home and a loving family. Think about that before you make your final decision.

God knows and understands your feelings and your heart. You will find the way.

E.

Have you considered talking with your minister about this? Also, you might want to consider the fact that God was the one that encouraged the vasectomy. (just work with me here!) If you and your husband are financially stable enough to support more children and have the desire to give more love, then maybe you might want to consider giving some of that love to children who dont have any? Maybe foster kids/adoption or even just through volunteer work.

Remember, when you became a Christian God forgave you all of your past sins. If you feel like this was a sin, He's already forgiven you for it.

Also, you never mentioned how your husband feels about the reversal. You'll need to talk to a Dr (a urologist, maybe?) about this. Even if you can't get preg through "standard" methods, you can still have a child with your husband through medical means.

I hope I helped somehow, and good luck!

Hi J.,
It just so happened I came across your topic. My husband had a vasectomy almost 2 years ago. After much prayer and thought we found ourselves in the EXACT same position as you and your husband. The great news is we have found an amazing doctor. He is a Christian as well and has dedicated his practice to reversals. We are scheduled March 19th for reversal surgery. Insurance in most cases does not cover this. I would love to give you the details of all of this if you are interested. This doctor is in Oklahama. It is only about an 8 hr drive from Nashville. (not sure where you guys live) Please email me at ____@____.com and I can give you all of the information. We are so excited and hope to be pregnant again by this summer!! Please contact so we can chat.
K.

First let me say that I too am a Christian, I grew up in church and I am extremely faithful in my beliefs and actions. I do understand your desire to have more children and the best action for you to take is to discuss this with your OBGYN. I have heard of success stories of reversals. The only advise that I would give you is not to believe that you and your husband have done something outside of God's will. God does give us the ability to have children and the responsibility to grow them up in the way of the Lord, HOWEVER choosing to only have 2 or 3 or 8 children is a choice that we also have and in no way is it wrong or shameful to have made that decision. If someone close to you is trying to make you think that you have done something outside of God's pleasure then I would advise you to seek counsel in the Bible and other believers. If more children is what you desire and you have prayed and believe that is God's plan for you then I hope that you will be blessed with more children or you will be given the opportunity to adopt a child that is less fortunate. I wish you the best.

whoa whoa back up sweetheart....first of all, what you have done is not wrong or a sin, and God is not mad at you. I am a Christian and have been my whole life, and let me assure you that God is loving and provincial and you do not need to bury yourself with guilt over this. My brother is a wonderful Christian man with a great family, two boys and a beautiful wife. After their 2nd son they decided to have a vasectomy. They too regretted it after a while, but not because they felt that they needed to "let God decide" how many children they should have, but because they thought maybe they might want another one.
Let me assure you of another thing. It is ok to take control of your own life and make your own decisions, such as how many children you want. God helps direct us, but we have the responsibility to follow that still small voice, and even interperet it in our own life. Beating yourself up about it and feeling that you aren't living up to some ideal that someone or something put in your head will only stunt your walk. Be honest with yourself and with God about where you are and what you are feeling and thinking. He knows the truth anyway. Only when you let yourself be human will you be able to progress on a spiritual level. God does not call us to be perfect or spew out as many children as possible. It is an easy trap to fall into, and I myself spent years fearing that my life did not measure up before I found the truth and that is God loves you. He loves you as you are and you can not do anything to alter the level of that love, either to make him love you more, or less. RELAX and listen to your heart. If you really do feel that you want another child, have you thought about adoption? There are many children out there who need a loving mother. Also, vasectomys can be reversed. Just make sure you are doing it for the right reason, and not to live up to the ideal of religion. If you need to talk you can email me at ____@____.com
God bless.

J., My husband had a vasectomy about 10years ago during his first marriage. He had a reversal about 3 years ago so we could have children, we now have 2 beautiful little baby girls. I got pregnant 6 months after his reversal, then 6 months after my first daughter was born I got pregnant again. Also my sister had 3 children one after another after her husband had a vasectomy. All full term healthy babies. As long as the little guys still swim, I guess it works. Good luck to ya!

I've been reading the wonderful advice that you have been receiving. I just wanted to add that with it only having been two years since your husband's vasectomy, this is the best time if you decide to try for a reversal. The sooner, the better. I know that 5 or 10 years out, chances of a successful reversal are very low. Good luck and God bless you and your family. A.

Yes, I have a friend whose husband had a reversal a couple of years after the vasectomy to have a third child. Which by the way insurance covered. The success rate is high as long as it has not been more than five years since the reversal. Then it goes down some. It took my friend several months to get pregnant after the reversal but that is normal.
A.

This is so interesting to me because my husband just had his vasectomy consultation this morning! First of all I should premise this with the fact that I've been a born again Christian since i was 5. My husband has been since he was 16. My husband just graduated from Mid-America Theological Seminary and has been a youth pastor and is now looking for a college pastorate. Know that what I'm saying has been studied and prayed about many times.
Vasectomy reversal is expensive. Stewardship is important to God just as much as any other aspect of our lives. If having more children will make your budget tight, then having an elective surgery that will cost $5000 or more will do the same. In my estimation a reversal would not be good stewardship.
The bible does not address birth control because it wasn't available, however it does cover personal responsibility and especially finances. Proverbs 22:7" The rich rule over the poor, and the borrower is servant to the lender." It seems to me to put yourself in a precarious position to have more kids and provide for them IS unbiblical. Jeremiah 17:10 "I the LORD search the heart and examine the mind, to reward a man according to his conduct, according to what his deeds deserve." The Lord knows your heart. To spend money on something that is so expensive, very painful for your husband and may not even work once it's done doesn't seem worth it. I agree God will take care of you, but he also expects us to be responsible with what he's already given us.
Some alternatives may be adopt, be a surrogate for a mom who can't have babies, be a foster parent or just be there for a family who needs help.

I have friends who have been that route, they now have 8 children. Same story, a boy and a girl, vasectomy, longing for more, became Christians, vasectomy reversal, kids, more kids.
They struggled with being Christians and obeying God and providing for the kids. The battle is obey God, or follow the world's advice. God gave us minds,but he also says that his ways and thoughts are above our ways and thoughts. What to do?!
My friends prayed and struggled. God is a god of balance and order. He never goes to extremes in either way. And they DID have birth control "back then". There is nothing new under the sun. I believe the balance is pretty easy. Get the reversal done and leave it in God's hands. I am assuming that both of you are wanting more kids at this point. So if you get pregnant wonderful! After this next one is born, use what you can as "birth control" and there are several methods available, including abstinence during your 3-4 days of ovulation. Then both of you wait and pray. When and if God wants you to have more children he will let you both know individually and as a couple. When that happens and both of you are at peace about having another child then try for the next one. Remember that all things are possible with God. He opens and closes the womb. All He truly desires of you is a willing heart to obey him. The most important thing of all this is, how many children you feel called to have is no one's business but you, your husband and God's. Don't let the church or fellow Christians tell you how to make your family. Pray about it and be in prayer with your husband about it.
Also, if you don't get pregnant after the reversal, you have asked for forgiveness and received it, and you have also acted and performed the restitution and truly showed God you were sorry, so you can rest knowing that it just wasn't God's plan right now. The desire won't go away though. My hubby and I went through similar challenges. We had three though and I had the tubal, the reversal, two tubal pregnancies and finally a tubal removal. Our "baby" is 15 this year and we have recently begun the process to adopt from foster care. Good luck and I feel for you. L

I was in this same position a year ago. I was suprised after talking to my husband that he felt the same way. After we prayed about it, we thought that foster/adoption was the route for us. But after exploring every option, it was not the right route for us. I think that was God's way of giving us the peace of mind we needed in going with surgery. We decided to go with the vasectomy reversal. It was costly, but in deciding to follow God, He has brought in the money to pay for it.

Well I didnt have a vesectomy but I had my tubes tied, burnt and I guess whatever they could do to them at the age of 19. I divorced and met a man with no children we did not know this was a option. I had the surgery one tube was damaged to bad but the other was in working condition. They were tied for 18 yrs. Iwas 38 when I had the surgery so it was a success I guess you would say. They are specialists who can tell u before the surgery what kind of chances you have. I am not sure were ur at but I know some great drs. Good Luck