T.H.
I would probably go with the private place as well. I sort of agree and disagree with both of your previous responders...I think that MOST kids probably don't learn how to swim until 4-6 but kids as young as 2-3 can absolutely learn how to swim. We're experiencing the exact same issue with our daughter. She can basically swim but needs a real teacher. We've had her in county swim lessons for 2 years and even the instructors basically said she's too advanced for their classes. I'm trying to find a private place but can't. But, I do think that you can trust a 3 y/o who is swimming. Would I leave them in the pool and walk away, no, but you can surely sit on the side or tend to another kid if you're watching them. My daughter is 3.5 and her friend just turned 4 and they are very good in the water. I don't think it's the norm, but it is possible. I would probably just take your kid to the private place and leave. Don't give youself a chance to second guess it or be scared by the tactics of the instructor. Prepare your child, drop them off and leave. That's what I'd do! Good luck!