Hi, B.!
I was never able to give birth vaginally. When my son was born, his heartbeat was really slow and they couldn't get it to stay up no matter how much they tried to stimulate him. Each contraction made it drop down terribly, so the doctor recommended a C-section and I agreed. I was going to try a VBAC with my daughter last year, but ultrasound revealed extremely low levels of fluid that continued to decline until they finally reached such a low level that the doctor wanted to get her out just a few days early. It was just as well since it turned out that the cord was around her neck, so I probably would have ended up in the same situation as the first time anyway - or worse.
Anyway, I can't compare the two, but I can give you some advice about c-sections. First of all, take things slowly because the pain is really bad if you don't. When they finally unplug you from your IVs and tell you it is okay to get out of bed, try to make sure someone is there to help you and just start out slowly by rolling over on your side and then use your arms to push yourself up to sitting. Once you get up, try to walk around as much as you feel able to. It will help a lot with getting rid of the gas, which can cause terrible pain until some of it is gone. Just don't overdo it. I thought I felt great and I walked around and visited with people until suddenly I felt almost faint. You don't want to push that far.
The area is sensitive, but it depends on your tolerance for pain. The second one was a little easier for me than the first because I knew more what to expect, but I still found myself wondering why on earth I'd done it. :o) Just try to take things slow and be sure to follow the doctor's orders for when you go home. You'll definitely need someone to help you with your other kids because you will not want to lift anything other than your new baby for two weeks after the surgery. After my first one, I needed to find my family leave paperwork to turn in and I was crawling around looking for it until I felt a terrible pain in my abdomen. I thought I'd ripped something inside and even had a nurse practitioner check it out. She said it was nothing serious, but that I had done something I should have and just tore some tissue. I paid for that mistake for a few weeks - longer than the rest of my recovery - so be sure not to do that.
I would also recommend using a Boppy pillow, although some people don't seem to like them. For me it was a lifesaver because I could put it over my scar and hold my baby in a position that was pretty natural to me for breastfeeding. I never could get use to the football hold that they recommend for women who've had a c-section. I also used it just when I was holding the babies to protect the scar from those incredibly strong and accurate little kicking feet. :o)
If you have any other questions, feel free to e-mail me at ____@____.com. I'll be glad to answer or just chat.
Just out of curiosity, what type of work do you do now? I am thinking about quitting my job if we are lucky enough to get pregnant with our third child in the next year. It's a great job and I even get to work from home, but it still takes too much time away from my family and it's time that can never be reclaimed. The scariest part for me though is that we will lose essentially half our income and we'll have to buy health insurance for me and the kids through my husband's job which will be a big expense that we haven't had.
Anyway, I hope to hear back from you and I hope everything goes will for you in the next couple of weeks.
Take care,
L.