Hi T.,
I never wanted to have a c-section either!
I had twins my first pregnancy and had no choice but to have a c-section because they were "high-risk." My second pregnany was 6 years ago and it was a VBAC. Everything went great. My son was almost 10 lbs!
However, I had a baby 4 weeks ago and I had to have a c-section because my doctor said he was too big (he ended up being 8 lbs 12 oz.) and he was overdue by 1 week.
This is how my doctor explained it to me; she said that there has been an extensive medical study that was released within the last 5 years that weighs the risks of VBAC.
The study found that the risks were far worse than the gains. In my case, my doctor said that I needed to have a c-section scheduled a week past my due date just in case.
I trusted my doctor because I had already had a VBAC and my uterus was weaker because of it. I also knew that I had big babies and didn't want to take the risk.
That was the right decision for ME.
The bottom line is, YOU get to decide your method of birth. Your doctors role should be that of caretaker and advisor only.
If you can, get a second opinion! Do what feels right to you. I hope that you get to have a vaginal birth. But no matter what, it will be a beautiful thing!
Take care and good luck. I wish your family a happy holiday season!
H.