Uuughhh.

Worse than martial arts, my husband's a notorious bar fighter... yeah, me too... we just don't lose ;)

My brother just bought a sailboat (HUGE boat) AND does Jui Jitsu... his life insurance is through the roof!!

So yes, fighting, UFC training, all that stupid stuff goes on in our house. I don't worry... too much ;)

My Husband and daughter do martial arts.
There are Referees. The person can also "tap out."
Getting injured, is always a potential.
But any good competition, will have seasoned Referees and competition rules or disqualifications.

But yes, there are people/competitors, that are in it for the wrong reasons.
As you said.
I get that you are worried, and are a Mom now.
Maybe speak to your Husband in a caring non-confrontational way. Because, if he gets injured, it means no income for your family. And your Husband... has to consider that. Because it is a key point.
He has to think of your family and sustaining it.

my husband does jiu jutsu but he has not competed in it. He has competed in stick fighting though and did really well. I'm suprised that it got that crazy with your husband. I hope things go better for him this time. I don't know what to say about being worried about him, just that it's normal to worry about the ones we love and if he has his mind set on doing this then all you can do is be supportive and cheer him on. I think if we complain or tell them how worried we are, then they won't do as well because our worry will be in the back of their mind.

If we depended on my husband's income on a paycheck-to-paycheck basis I would have a problem with it. I'd tell my husband when we have 6 months living expenses in the bank, then he can go back to a somewhat dangerous hobby.

My son is a black belt in karate, so I don't have a problem with martial arts. I do have a problem with tournaments where someone could get seriously hurt - especially when that person is the primary breadwinner.

JMO.

Referees?!?!?! Like a lot of other posters, I have done martial arts and there should be guidelines to prevent the kind of injuries that keep you from working. Have you shared your feelings with him and let him know that he needs to tap out rather than pass out? I know there's a lot to be said for throwing yourself into the competition, but he needs to make providing for his family a priority. I would just talk to him and make sure you're on the same page. There's no shame in walking away from an idiot who wants to hurt people, especially if you're a parent!

I like the idea of telling him that you would like to have 6 months savings before he shoudl continue. Also maybe a life insurance policy and disability??

No martial arts, but my husband plays rugby...talk about full contact..whoa!! ;) When we were kidless I still worried, but nothing like I do now. I'm a SAHM and if he gets seriously injured and can't work or has a major medical problem, we're screwed! BUT, I know he loves it and I know he tries to be safe and I just try and roll with it! Hang in there...and good luck to him this weekend!

I am a martial artist (full-contact Japanese karate with some Muay Thai), and I am constantly being asked by other moms who have kids in karate about why I don't go to competition. When I tell them it's because I cannot afford to break something, like a wrist, because I must work and I need my arms to bathe my daughter, dress her, drive her, etc., they assume I am being a sell out and a wimp. I have seen people break bones, some of my fellow students have even gotten sciatica which required them to take it easy for a year, and I simply cannot afford to have this happen to me as I am a breadwinner. I am glad at least someone understands why I feel this way :)