Urine Messes and Little Boys

Updated on March 27, 2012
L.G. asks from Saint Paul, MN
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I need suggestions on how to stop my 6yo from making a mess when he pees. It usually happens in the morning, he'll pee too high (says he shivers and can't control it) and the urine goes between the seat part and the tank and ends up in a puddle behind the toilet. I also wonder if he's just not awake, and not paying attention. But its gross and I am wondering if anyone knows of any great products or methods that could prevent this?

Also, I'm not usually home when he's waking up, and he's usually the first one up, so this often goes unnoticed until my husband gets out of bed, if he even notices!

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Thanks for the advice! I will be showing your suggestions to my husband, since he'll have to be the "enforcer" 5 days a week.

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K.C.

answers from Norfolk on

Sorry to repeat any suggestions....

I have my 6-yr old sit first thing in the morning.

Also, my boys always have to clean up their own pee messes. I usually give them a cleaning wipe or paper towel (and yes, I do a second cleaning after their job). Once they have to do this a few times, it's amazing that they don't make them anymore!!!

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S.G.

answers from Jacksonville on

Honestly, I'd have him sit down to pee if he can't keep it under control in the Morning. My son will be 6 in May and he sits and he stands, just depends on how he feels I guess. But yes, it is gross between the the seat and the lid!! I have on both my toilets they type of sea that is easy to remove. You turn the knobs on top where it bolts to the toilet and lift up!! Here is one that lowes carries http://www.lowes.com/pd_###-###-####-1744EC+000_0__?produ...=

My son also knows that if he dribbles or misses, he needs to take some toilet paper and clean it up.

Good luck
S.

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V.W.

answers from Jacksonville on

I pretty much resigned myself to always having this issue. It does get a little better as they get older. (My son is 13).

I didn't really do the "you clean it up" thing, because he has a younger sister and it was becoming an argument over who had made the mess. And I refuse to make my daughter clean up my son's urine mess.

Boys can be so gross sometimes. Gotta love 'em.

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C.W.

answers from Indianapolis on

I'm sorry but I don't agree with making him go outside or sitting down to pee, sitting down to pee for most, not all, but most is not a natural thing. This is what happens with little boys, me and some moms were just talking about it the other day. Is it gross, yes, does it make the bathroom stink, yes. All you can do is keep reminding him to try to be better about hitting the potty and with my boy we keep wipes by the potty and when we see a mess or he does, he knows he is to clean it up. He's almost 12, but at that age I had to remind him constantly and still do sometimes.

My mother-in-law had 3 boys and she has said the same thing, it's annoying, but make them aware, make them clean it up, and it will get better.

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A.C.

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Can you have a rule that he sits down to pee first thing in the morning or in the middle of the night? That way he doesn't have to think, aim, pay attention, or worry about shivering.
My husband taught my 5 year old to wipe down if he makes a little drip on the toilet. He said that his family had a rule growing up (mom, dad, 3 boys, and an uncle all shared 1 bathroom) that the youngest person's chore was to clean the toilets. That way each child as he was growing up figured out quickly how to avoid messes. I thought that was a bit harsh for a 5 year old, until I actually SAW him being careless, and no amount of talking to him about it made a dent. I couldn't go from Monday to Monday without having to clean his bathroom twice (and he's the ONLY one that uses it---we have 4 baths!), and it needed to change. I called Jeremy in one day and said "I'll clean it all---I'm cleaning all the bathrooms anyway, but I want you to show your son this room, and have a talk with him". I went to do the other bathrooms and he talked with Joe a little bit, then got the cleaning supplies and gloves, and they cleaned it together. They discussed HOW to stand up and aim, how much "force" to pee with at first (push more as you're finishing, not when you first start), how to lean before "shaking" it (not really shaking but whatever you'd call that), that he should sit when he's asleep or just waking up, and that sometimes messes happen and that's ok, but he needs to clean it up (but to get mom/dad and gloves for cleaning products). Once Joe understood he gets to clean his messy bathroom (with help, but he still has to do it too), the messes magically got 90% better overnight. Seriously, overnight. Go figure.

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L.D.

answers from Minneapolis on

Don't you love boys! :)

I have 1 boy age 7. His buddies are over a lot and the toilet used to get pretty gross.

Here's how I eliminated the problem. When I see a mess or a "miss," the boy cleans it up. I give him a rag and homemade, non-toxic cleaner. Then they have to wash their hands with soap and water --again.

Kids will ALWAYS give you an excuse. I don't care- accident, on purpose, so what? We still have to clean up after ourselves, right?!

In any case, they've hit the target a lot better since!

Here's the recipe for the non-toxic cleaner:

Fill a spray bottle 3/4 full with hot water
Add a tablespoon or 2 of Borax
Add 1/4 cup of white vinegar
Add 1/4 cup dish soap
Mix and keep it on the counter for everything.

Non-toxic, except to urine and germs!

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S.V.

answers from Washington DC on

they do make pee shields you can put up never used one but here is alink to one http://www.flippee.com
No other real advice since this is a battle i fight also and am also on the losing end. We are currently in the midst of renovations and if i could figure out how to put a urinal in the boys bathroom i would. Good luck. i will be looking forward to the responses as well.

B.C.

answers from Norfolk on

When our son was young and his aim was not great I told him to use the bath tub and be sure to rinse the tub when he was done.
It's a lot easier to clean up than pee on the floor.

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S.S.

answers from Chicago on

tell him to sit down when he pees. my son in law told my grandson he just had to point at the toilet he didn't have to "hold" it while going. I had to break that habit with my grandson. they need to point where it should go and if not then they should be sitting down with it aimed into the toilet. good luck

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A.G.

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It IS gross. I line the part between the seat and the tank w/paper towels. I use about 3 sheets which I fold to make it fit, and I even rip holes to fit over the seat anchors. I also make him wipe around w/some toilet paper if he "goes outside the lines". Nothing wrong with teaching kids how to clean up after themselves, no matter how big or small.

T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

Does he hold it and point it down?
During potty training I had my son aim at a cheerio in the water. I know at six your son is long potty trained but maybe he would find a little "target practice" fun!

A.G.

answers from Dallas on

We live on a farm. My son always pees outside. :)

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