URGENT Advice Needed Re Birthday Gift

Updated on May 03, 2015
J.K. asks from Los Angeles, CA
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I just got word that on Monday, the parents of a girl in my daughter's preschool class will be providing lunch because she's turning 3. Should I get her a gift?

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J.K.

answers from Wausau on

This seems to be similar to bringing cupcakes to school on one's birthday. It's not a party and no gifts are brought.

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L.M.

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I don't think the parents would be expecting it. I know that all my kids' classes have a snack brought in like cupcakes, cookies, etc.. for birthdays. If you wanted, you could pick up a card, but I wouldn't feel obligated. Now, if you are friends with the parents or your child is friends with the little girl, you could pick up a little something like maybe bubbles, a pretty hair bow or something simple like that.

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C.S.

answers from Las Vegas on

I don't think a gift is necessary.

You got word not a written invitation. However, if the girls are best buds, give her a gift on your own time together.

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S.H.

answers from Des Moines on

No, no gift. If your daughter wants to make her a card, then I'd say go for it.

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D.B.

answers from Boston on

No gift. It gets out of hand. They are just letting you know not to pack a lunch for your child.

I'm surprised they are allowing it - it may set up some competition or make other parents things they are supposed to do this. In the old days, parents just brought cupcakes and so on, but that went by the wayside because a) too many families had both parents working and b) too many kids had food allergies.

Please resist the urge to do anything. A 3 year old doesn't understand what a birthday is and can't read a card, all the other kids will want the balloon or a gift, and everyone will be crying if they don't get something!

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T.S.

answers from San Francisco on

It's common for kids to bring in birthday treats to share with the class, no one is expecting presents.

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M.R.

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Maybe make a small simple craft with homemade card if your daughter wants to. I wouldn't buy anything.

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S.S.

answers from Chicago on

I would not. This is not a birthday party. I'm surprised the school is allowing this at all.

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S.H.

answers from Santa Barbara on

no gift is expected.

The school or family is letting you know before hand so you do not pack a lunch. If I did this I would feel guilty if someone brought a gift. This just sound like the new 'cupcake' class treat that is hopefully healthier and helpful to parents who make lunch every morning (giving you the day off).

If you already were planning on a gift regardless of the lunch then still give it. My son got a book from a classmate's mom and as a bday present in preschool. I thought it was sweet. She gave one to ever child (10 kids) on their bday.

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S.T.

answers from Washington DC on

nope.
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T.F.

answers from Dallas on

No,

In school it is normal for parents to bring donuts, cupcakes, toys, etc to celebrate with the class. No gift is expected.

If your daughter makes a card or something like that... It's sweet but not necessary.

I think you were probably informed that lunch is brought in somyiub don't pack lunch and so the parents are aware of any allergy issues. Misting the time, parents of the classmates are unaware when a birthday is celebrated at recess at school.

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M.G.

answers from Portland on

Hi,

No gift is required.

We had parents bring in cakes and what not but it wasn't the norm.

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O.L.

answers from Los Angeles on

I'd say NO. Maybe a homemade card?

L.A.

answers from Austin on

Maybe a helium Balloon? A card? a book?

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