J.S.
Yep. He's a young 'un.
He's bragging. Be flattered. But this isn't a medical thing, or a masochist thing. This is a just-recently-post-pubescent thing.
Hey, this is just an update... I asked this question a little while ago
"Is it possible for someone to not feel some sorts pain? Or to ignore pain? Almost to the point of liking pain?
what would this be called? Can different people has different pain thresholds? or tolerances towards pain?
See my boyfriend says that he can take any pain someone might inflict on him, or any injury (i don't believe him, I think he's just trying to impress me). Is this possible?"
And i have two little things to add to it.
1. he says that he can feel the pain, he can just handle a lot of it before it bothers him.
2. he likes the feeling of pain, sometimes, not all the time. and this is apparently because it helps him remember that he is alive, and according to him because it helps him to "up how much pain he can handle"
Not really a new question, just an update.. i guess i posted it wrong. Sorry.
if he is just bragging, how do i get him to get help when he actually needs it...
Yep. He's a young 'un.
He's bragging. Be flattered. But this isn't a medical thing, or a masochist thing. This is a just-recently-post-pubescent thing.
It reminds me of "Fight Club". Look this up on "House, MD". I think there was an episode about it, but something was definitely wrong with the gal - she was in the hospital!
Dawn
Okay, so yes, we all have different levels of pain tolerance, and there are sometimes valid, underlying medical reasons why some people feel less than others.
But he LIKES the feeling of pain?
Sorry, I am really NOT a prude but that statement would make me turn and run.
As far as I know the only people who enjoy pain are those who get off on it sexually (masochists) and those who have an emotional/psychological need to "feel" something, most common example is cutting, and it sounds like this guy is in the latter group. It helps him remember that he is alive?!?!
Is THIS the kind of man that you want in your life?
I'm serious :(
Human beings are so fascinating!
I saw a Dr Phil show once a few years ago about a little girl who couldnt feel pain. She would bite her lips till they bled, and poke her eyes until she had damaged her sight. She would touch hot things and be burned and not cry. When she fell, she never cried. It was not a good story to watch.
Id say this boy friend isnt in that catagory, but rather showing off and being a bragart thinking hes a big shot. I have also heard some who cut themselves, say it makes them feel alive to feel that pain. He needs help.
He sounds like a Masochist a person who likes the feeling of pain, and will go through measures to feel pain, and can handle a big amount of pain.
What is your question here so we know?
Yes, people like this do exist, I once knew a person like this and they were strange if you ask me. They also had some deep issues. Any person who "likes" being in pain has some issues. Just my opinion.
ETA: Dont be sorry, I was just curious!
I always have to tell doctors when they ask me what my pain is on a scale of 1-10 that childbirth is a 5 for me. (I used to pass numerous kidney stones a day...without pain meds.)
With that being said, yes people have different pain thresholds. Meaning some can't handle a paper cut, it would be a 7 or 8, and others could break their leg and be at a 4 or 5. Like I said, giving birth is about a 5 for me. I can deal with pain and blow it off. When I was in my car accident, the doctors originally said they didn't think I was in bad shape because I was joking. They knew I was in pain, but didn't think it was that bad. I broke both knees, dislocated my shoulder, fractured and broke several ribs, fractured my sternum, broke some other bones and then sprains, bruises, etc. They were shocked when they got the x-rays back.
So can I see him being able to take a lot of pain from injury, etc and move on. Doesn't surprise me.
Hi C.,
It sounds like your boyfriend has a bit of a mental "issue". Cutters cut because it helps them feel alive, too. If you can't get him to see a psychiatrist, maybe you could get him some literature on the subject. If you could convince him that he is wasting precious time focussing so much on pain and that this time could be focussed more productively on pleasure, perhaps you could help him turn his head around a bit. Ask him why it is so important for him to manage pain. And you could remind him that if he lives long enough, old age will probably bring him plenty of pain to deal with. ;) Tell him Grams says to forget about pain and focus on all good things. Stop wasting time and go do something good for someone. Get your mind off yourself and put it where it can do some good for others. And you could probably help him by changing the subject when it comes up...turn the negative thoughts into positive ones.
Hope this helps, C..
"Grams"
from the Pocono Mts. of PA
You don't. Drives my husband nuts at times but at least when I do ask for help he knows I have done everything else in my power to cope.
Pretty much I go to a doctor when I can't move. It isn't so much healthy but then that is also an exaggeration. Last year I fell six feet off a ladder holding a half sheet of plywood. I saw the knee bend sideways and knew it did something major but I could walk, so all good. It wasn't until four weeks later when I couldn't put weight on it off and on that I went to my orthopedic surgeon. I was actually shocked I had torn my ACL, I figured it would hurt more.
Troy didn't lecture me, it wouldn't have done any good. What he did do was made it as easy as possible for me to get the surgery I needed. So to answer that question that is all you can do.
Thing you have to realize is it is no different than a normal person except the point where we realize we are in trouble is just a little further down the road, ya know?
Oh, I don't like the feel of pain, really it makes me feel old, not alive. It is just I am always in pain so it is no longer an indicator of something being wrong with me, it is normal. :(
I knew a guy along time ago that something was wrong or different about his nerve ending and he showed me how he could put both hands on an outside grill over coals...I mean touching the grill. He could do it ...but he explained he would still get the injury so he didn't wanna do it long.....strange.