A friends daughter is doing stuff that I really didn't think kids would do. Her 3 year old daughter is going poop in a pull-up/diaper and is wiping it all the walls and everything in her room. She has done this 2 times in the past few days. My friend doesn't really know what to do with her daughter. Any answers?
My friend is 8 months pregnant and runs a child care out of her house.
take the diaper off. sounds like a cry for some elimination communication and art therapy. give the girl some crayons and paint.
If this is a new behavior, she needs to get this child to the Doc. This could be many things. Basic disobedience, acting out in response to a trauma, or the early signs of a more serious behavioral problem. Ruling out basic disobedience is simple matter of implementing serious consequences for the behavior, if it stops, move on. However, if it doesn't stop within a week, she needs to be seen and evaluated. This is not normal behavior and should not be ignored.
Hello S.,
I have 5 children, have raised several other children and several grandchildren. I know for a fact that 3 year olds are most capabel to know what they are doing and knowing what is right and wrong. The only children that I have ever known to do this have had sever disabilities without reasonable understanding. For a healty child otherwise is unnatural and is something that she should talk to the doctor about. I wonder if the child is ever punished for this action? I have found that with the teaching of right and wrong behavior that natural consequences of punishment have a place. Please ask her to not to wait a moment longer-- for health reasons and her hcilds well being. Nana Glenda
Did something happen? 3 year olds don't have the words to let mom or an adult know that they have been mistreated and will act out. If her schedule was changed or she lost a pet or was, God forbid, abused in some way she could be acting out because of that.
OOOH! Yuck! poor mom!
Something must have instigated this behavior.....
At 3, she is old enough to understand the difference between right and wrong, and needs to leanr that wiping poop on the walls is absolutely wrong!
She needs to be understood that Poop is garbage and dirty and only goes in the toilet! Everyone has a toilet in their home for one reason.........poop and pee! That is the only place for this waste.
Sounds like she needs to start cleaning it up. Hopefully she will get tired of cleaning it and stop doing it.
Tell mom to hang in there! This behavior won't last forever!
~N. :o)
This is one bad thing that a small child did twice. This doesn't constitute behavioral issues yet. At three years old the concept of being responsible for your behaviour is new, and needs to be taught to her. When she is bad, there is a punishment for it. Time out, or take away a toy or priveledge would be an age appropriate response. I would NOT make her claen it up or she will always see cleaning as a punishment, but be clear that she is being punished, and why.
I don't have any personal experience to draw from, but I thought I'd mention that I've heard similar poop stories from several other mamas. There's even a discussion on BabyCenter about it: http://www.babycenter.com/400_how-do-i-stop-my-toddler-fr...
Although it's totally gross, I think it's pretty normal and wouldn't stress too much about it. Good luck to your friend!
