S.C.
My husband grew up with a very cold enviroment, no hugs or kisses. nobody verbally connecting emotionally...the result.. my husband is a carbon copy of it. doing the same to me and kids. VERY PAINFUL to watch the kids try and reach out and he has no expression, practically ignores them. for example, my 5 year old daughter could fall down and skin her knee..be crying. he has no expression, doesn't run to her ( which is my instinct and probably the same as most parents )
also, if i am sick..God help me cause he will not bring me things to care for me. i grew up in a very loving enviroment. someone is sad you respond with kindness, someone speaks to you , you respond, especially to a child. when someone you love is sick, you make them soup..
he does none of it, i truly believe this is from how he was raised, and i time to time wonder if it's not close to a the behavior of a sociopath...no feelings for others...
in sum....bad situation.... i am constantly over compensating for husbands very very short comings...it's not enough, the children feel it