My hubby is saying this too, but I know that it means "I need a break!" But we have 4 kids too! I am not ready, but I know that I want more, even if by adoption. I still get the feeling that someone is missing, but I dont see adding another for at least a few years from now. He doesnt want to even think about having another "RIGHT NOW", but it is something that he and I will talk about in the future. For now, we are not anywhere NEAR financially stable, and something we would both like, is for him to have an excelent job before we expore the idea of adding #5 to complete our family. I would like to be able to give my kids their dreams of karate school, gymastics, and whatever my daughter ends up wanting, weather it be ballet, tap, or music lessons. I would love to give each of them their desires. I would love to send them all to private school too (although with 4 or 5 kids, it might be cheeper to higher a totur (LOL) Anyways, Just give him time. I have found that with each of my kids, my hubby says "I dont know if I want more" and then, he does usually tell me that he wants more later. Or he will say Not right now. Or We will talk about it in a few years" Right now, it is "we'll talk in a few years." and I am all for that. I know that I dont want to be pregnant again, and I think that is part of the problem, pregnancy is very hard on my body. And he kinda wont talk to me about adoption. But I know that when he doesnt want to talk about something, it is because he hasnt figured out things in his head yet. He doesnt like to talk about things unless he has decided one way or the other. Although I know that I want one more, and he knows that, and to a degree I know that he wants one more, I would be fine if he decided after a few years that he wanted to get fixed and did not want to adopt. We have a full house, and my heart feels so happy with what I have, I feel "FULL". But I know that in a few years that what is just a thought for another now, will start bugging me and I will start talking to my hubby about having that last baby. I would just advise to wait it out, bring it up every now and then, but dont push it.. Just let him know you still want that baby, but dont make tell you when or anything, he will know when he is ready. wait til #2 starts loosing the baby looks, and more like a kid look, then talk to him again. then if he still doesnt want to talk about it, wait til #2 a little older, sometimes a gap is the best thing for your relationship too. your first two are pretty close together, maybe you should wait til #2 is old enough to spend a night away and plan a night without kids, stuff like that does wonders to my hubby! LOL.