Hi Again,
I have two things i need to decide on soon.
First, I was going to go to a wedding this Saturday, with husband and two children in tow. Turns out we can't make it. The wedding party did not register anywhere, so I was going to give them a cash gift though I can't come up with an amount. The first and last wedding i have been to has been mine, and mine was held in our backyard and was very laid back, so nothing traditional.
We had rsvp-ed as we would go, so what do I do now? Call and say we can't make it? or just send a card with a check? The wedding party are distant friends of mine whom I have not seen in over 6 years, but care about them both.
How much should I send? Should I send cash or check?
I did not plan on not going but just can't control, things sometimes.
My second unrelated question is, my daughters are graduating kindergarten. Their teacher was a Godsend. I feel without her going out of her way my kids would have not had such a great experience and awesome year. I need to come up with a great gift for the teacher. I already send in the money for the group gift that class mom will get for the teacher. I have also done different themed goodie baskets for the classroom throughout the year, like art basket, crafts basket etc. The teacher is young and without kids.
I originally thought get her a gift certificate to a spa for a 100 or 150. I don't want to be THAT mom buying kids' teacher, because that is not the case. She won't be their teacher anymore, but we all love her to death. She is what I think of awesome awesome teacher, and i want to show her my appreciation. Any ideas of my original thought is not good, or do you guys have other suggestions?
Thank you so much
L.
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call now! They may give a final count today to their catering person. You could save them $100.00 or more if this is a sit down dinner.
Call your friends, apologize, but they will likely understand that circumstances change. They will appreciate the heads-up. NEVER send cash through the mail. Write a check...maybe $150 or $200? You could call some other members of the family and snoop out if they needed anything if you don't want to just send a monetary gift. As a teacher, I would be a bit embarrassed to receive a gift of that amount, especially since you have done things throughout the year, but the gift certificate is a nice idea. Find out how much a manicure/pedicure deal is at a nice local spa and give her that amount. I once went for a chocolate wrap manicure. That was fun and relaxing.
Wow! $150 or $200???!!!! I just got married in Oct and the most we got was $50 and thought that was very generous considering this economy. And I definately would let them know asap that you are not coming. If they are having a reception with food, they need an accurate head count so they don't have to pay for people who don't show. Just my opinion....good luck!
call the wedding asap and tel them you can not go and send a nice card with the check.
the teacher i think is good if you want to give her a spa gift certificate and 1 nice thank you card
Sorry no help from me about the wedding question but as for the teacher here is my suggestion.
First write her a card, note letter whatever and tell her how wonderful she is and how much you appreciate her and her work, time, love, etc. she has given your kids.
Second write a letter to her superviser/principle and tell them what an amazing teacher she is and how much you appreciate her. This doesn't sound like much but some districts "reward" teachers with great evals from parents. Plus it will go "in her file" (or should) and be something cherished at the end of a career! f parents take the time to write to the school about a bad teacher we should do it for a wonderful teacher. It says a lot when a parent takes the time for a "letter of praise"!!!
I am answering your question about the teacher. A few of us went in and got our kids Pre- K teachers a spa gift card for both of them and they ABSOLUTELY LOVED IT!! They were so excited!!! we also pitched in and got the class mom to get a group gift but this was from a few of us that have been real close!! SO I think that is a great gift!!
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Yes, call the wedding people, send a card as well with a check for $50 or 100, or whatever's comfortable. As far as the teacher goes, what they REALLY deserve is recognition, so even if you were only getting her a candle or coffee cup, write a note with it telling her everything you just told us, they NEVER hear the good stuff ENOUGH!!
The spa gift is way too much money and would make the teacher uncomfortable, IMO. Pick out a very nice thank you note and then write in it what you wrote here about her teaching skills. Then a plant or flowers would be enough. She will be delighted that you took the time to tell her what you think. Another thing is if other moms found out about a spa gift or other expensive private gift they might get insulted.
What about a gift certificate for a mani/pedi at nail spa? Not quite so extravagant or intimate as a full fledged spa. But still more personal than the usual starbucks card. I think a bookstore gift card would be good, if you know they love to read for sure. I know a few teachers, and from what they have told me, gift certs for supplies is not really the best idea. For one thing, it is summer, they are looking forward to NOT being a teacher for a few weeks. And it is nice to acknowledge that they are more than just teachers.
I agree that something in the range of $40-50 is more appropriate for the wedding too. It all depends on how close you are, and I know time spent apart isn't the main consideration. But weddings I have been to, unless very upscale and affluent, usually people get Target gift cards in that range. As for check vs cash- definitely check, or you could do a visa gift card, but those are kind of a ripoff and difficult to use. If you know a store they love to shop at- Target, Dillards, etc, you could get it from that store specifically. My vote would be check though.
