Twin Boy Birthday Party and Presents

Been thru this many times, I have 6 yr old triplets:)....

Each are in 3 different class so I put the name of one of trio with whom the kid is in class with. We do it everytime and usually they bring one gift. But we do have many common friends and they bring 3 gifts.

They open the gifts but I always ask them to choose one to play with...rest are dangling carrots ;))))

When i attend their common friends birthday I give 3 gifts from each of my trio (usually divide my budget and get 3 )...

Just put the name of the twin that the guest is in class with.

Class A : Please join us for Billy's birthday on Saturday, Jan. 27.
Class B: Please join us for Bobby's birthday on Saturday, Jan. 27.

You can also just invite the boys from each class. This will cut down on the # of guests.

Hmmm. I think people SHOULD bring 2 presents for them :) You can always return them for gift cards, BUT to answer your question, I think you go with "Your attendance is gift enough" but that implies no gifts at all. Honestly when I get school invites that say that, I still bring a small gift. Can't help myself; I know how much kids love their bdays. If you had a friend that had 2 kids with different b-days and you got invited to both parties throughout the year, you would bring a gift for each right? So dont feel guilty about the 2 present deal for your twins. Happy Bday boys!

The easiest thing is to say presents are optional or not required.

But you could try to come up with a little rhyme. I kind of suck at this but something like the following:

We hope you can come, we hope to see you there.
No need to bring a present, your presence is all we need.
But if you'd like to bring a gift, bring something we can share.

Ok, I really suck at this. But if you can come up with a rhyme, it will be kind of cute without be presumptuous that you were expecting a gift.

I have twin boys as well and we have a twin playgroup where all the kids were born about the same time of year. We just agreed that we wouldn't exchange gifts amongst the twins. When we had a party, I said gifts optional because I didn't want the non-twin friends to feel obligated to bring a gift. However, they did bring small gifts anyway.

It is increasingly common here that the kids don't open presents in front of others, so the other kids wouldn't know who gave what to whom. You might say "joint/shared gifts are OK and encouraged" or something like that. When we went to a twin party, we knew both twins equally well and bought one each. But other kids only knew one kid or the other and didn't bring 2.

U could put gifts optional and also do something funny like : gifts 1 for 2 (instead of 2 for 1).
or you could just write a little note explaining although gifts are optional, if bringing gifts to please make it 1 gift both the boy can enjoy.

I wouldn't say anything at all unless you want NO presents. If that's the case, put something on like "please no presents." Or you could ask people to bring a used book to exchange and then every child goes home with a book. Anything else gets too tricky and some people will bring presents and others won't, and those who didn't will feel bad. So please don't try to state that gifts aren't necessary, or people shouldn't feel obligated. They DO feel obligated and that's ok. You would bring a gift to a small child's birthday party, right?

For what it's worth, I have five year old twin girls. For their five year old party, we invited the entire class and about 10 kids showed up. All of them brought presents, but those ranged from $5 Lego sets to way more involved and expensive. People will only bring what they can afford, you don't need to worry about it.

I think there will be plenty of times that your boys will be "jypped" in their birthday lifetimes; getting those joint presents and having to share it. But I see your point. That would end up being a heck of a lot of gifts.

I agree with the other posters who said said to word the invites, "Presents are not necessary". That way, if they come with one or two or no presents, all will be fine. I wouldn't make opening gifts a part of the party, either.

Good luck with the party!

At a few parties we've attended recently, the hosts had requested a book-exchange instead of gifts. Each child should bring an age-appropriate book, of no more than X amt in value (ours was $12), and the books would be exchanged at the party. That way, everyone went home with something, and the birthday boys also received something without it getting out of hand.
Just a thought. Good luck.

Can you accept the gifts, open them and then put a lot away for later. I do that with my daughter's gifts. She has so many crafts and would open all of them. So I put many in a closet and bring them out when we need something new to do.

I also find that a lot of people will ask what the birthday kid would like. Your answer then could be something to share.

You can't ask people not to bring gifts. Some will listen, but others will bring gifts, and then the first group will feel cheap or embarrassed. You also can't deprive your kids of what every other kid gets - birthday gifts. You're going to have this problem every year if you decide to invite the whole class! I never did that for my single child - I didn't want him to have 20 gifts. I didn't feel he was equal friends with all 20 kids in the class. And no guests want to sit there for 30 minutes while the birthday child tears through 20 gifts. Nobody wants to bring gifts and then not see the joy on the child's face when the gift is opened, which is what happens when gifts are opened after the party.

The trick for you is to invite ONLY their friends. Might be from the class, might not be. If you only invite 10 kids total, that's okay. You can split the list as others have said - draw a name for each invited guest, but still, you can't invite 20 kids and not have a gift frenzy. Scale back. Believe me, no parents want to go to every party for every kid in the class and buy presents for them all, and most kids get sick of a party every week. Kids need to learn that not everyone gets invited to everything - start now when they aren't going to be hurt or feel left out.

possibly.. hmm- you meaning -- for no one needs to bring gifts?
or just some ppl to bring gifts?
It would be harder if you only expect some to and some not to..

If none required just state.. perhaps something around:
-have like a potluck where they bring something to eat?
-or say its a birthday party event no gifts required, come have fun enjoy.
-share birthday celebration, and need only bring yourselves ready for fun, games
- you can even tell them the theme doesnt have to always be toys, : bedroom deocrations ( cool pillows,rug,?? :/ , ( My teenage girls wanted a bedroom theme because there were certain things I just didnt think they needed, but they wanted for their room-- they love pillows, throws, and so they got diff. from friends and now.. they will be set,for when they have their apt.. lol jkg )
-or they will be sharing the toy/s and tell ppl you already talk to and are comfortable with they should understand, - bring toy they would share,
or clothes, as they get older clothes/ shoes (needed) items get more expensive..

- shared toys: videogames, puzzles, coloring books,bath items, bedroom decor, deco pillows, giftcards, ?
hope this helps.

-(if you kids are understanding: and they already have TONs of toys, and they are willing to get rid of some,.. You can always put a box out,- On their way out kids can pick out a toy?, that way your not overwhelmed with their bedroom filled w/ toys and not enough room..

p.s- you may think : too many toys, don't need/ want more...
think of your kids- they are individual: different tastes even thogh everyone sees them as the twins..
I know.