Tubal Ligation Bilateral

Updated on September 13, 2010
B.P. asks from Greenville, SC
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I am 30 years old and have 5 natural born children. My youngest is 5 months old and was a surprise. I know without a shadow of doubt that my husband and I do not want anymore children. My husband was considering a V but did not follow through. I don't think it is fair to my other children to add to our family. I am terrified anytime my husband and I are together. I have called my OB and set up a Tubal Ligation Bilateral. Has anyone had this done after they have had their children. I regret not doing so in the hospital after my last child. Did anyone have any side effects and if so what were they? Thank you, i'm so terrified!

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Thank you so much for all of your responses! I am happy to report my husband surprised me today with paid receipts for a V, scheduled for this Thursday, woot woot! I wonder if I should double the protection and still go through with the tubal? Any thoughts?

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L.M.

answers from Dover on

I agree w/ Julie but I also knew my hubby would not have it done so I did. No problems. I had one complication but it wasn't because of the tubal ligation it was because a cyst that I had when I was pregnant had grown around one ovary and it had to be removed too (unexpectedly) while in the operating room. I actually went back to work the next day (I wasn't allowed to drive though).

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B.B.

answers from Augusta on

I'm with Julie. Make the appointment for your husband and then tell him about it. I fail to believe how any man can allow his wife to go through an expensive, invasive surgery when the problem could be fixed by a simple doctor's appointment on his part. If he won't do it, cut off sex until he does!

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B.W.

answers from Myrtle Beach on

I'm with the poster lower. My dh got the picture long ago that when it came time for permanent measures it would be his turn. I've carried, given birth to, and nursed 4 children, he can DEAL. But on the practical side, their are no real complications with a V and it is quick and relatively cheap. I don't understand why people go with a tubal instead. That is just selfishness on the man's part IMO.

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J.B.

answers from Atlanta on

I'm sorry, but your husband needs to check himself and MAN UP if he can't do a 15 minute routine procedure that is both less expensive AND far less invasive with FAR less recovery time after you have carried and given birth to 5 children! He WOULD get that vasectomy or there would be hell to pay if it were me! Good luck with whatever you do, but that's ridiculous. Don't be scared about the tubal. It's very routine and you will be just fine, but you will require a longer recovery than he would with a vasectomy. I do applaud you for taking some step though and putting some thought into it!

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N.H.

answers from Charleston on

I had it done after my last child and now my periods, which were heavy before, are HORRIBLE!!! I had it done in Denver & now live in SC and when I talked to my OB/GYN here, she said it is an "official" side effect of tubal libation, but she has heard it enough to believe there is an association. I had it done because I was having a scheduled C-section, otherwise my hubby would have done the V. I never would have done it if I had known it might make my periods this much worse! It's much more invasive for you to do this than for hubby's option. You carried FIVE children (for which you deserve a reward!) I think you need to tell hubby to get off his tail and head to the doc! My friend and I were just talking about this the other night. Her hubby had it done with no problems - in/out, a little discomfort, a bag of frozen peas... Now all is well! It's Daddy's turn! Just my opinion ;-)

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M.H.

answers from Raleigh on

I don't know how old you are, but if you are younger than 30, it really would be best for your hubby to get the vasectomy. There was actually a woman on here the other day who is pregnant again after having a tubal. They are not nearly as "sterile" as a vasectomy, and after 10 years, your chances of having getting pregnant sky rocket (again, why I ask how old you are...chances are you won't have gone through menopause at 40). I'm not trying to dissuade you, but I think you need to talk to your OB about the reality having another child with a tubal versus your hubby having the vasectomy (not to mention that his procedure is far less difficult than yours). Good luck either way!

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T.T.

answers from Savannah on

You should check out the E-sure procedure. I had it done about a year ago. It is almost completely painless, no recovery time, nothing. You go in like a pap smear (stirrups, etc), doctor uses some fancy equipment to insert a tiny little coil into your fallopian tubes, you go home. 2 or 3 months later you go in and have an xray done where your doctor shoots some dye into your uterus. This is to see if there is any leakage into the fallopian tubes. If there's no leakage, you're good to go. If there is, you wait another 2 months and go back for another xray. During the time between the procedure and the xray you are on birth control. The way it works is that your body will grow scar tissue around the coils, thereby blocking the fallopian tubes. It is ranked right up there with a tubal for effectiveness. My friend did it at the same time I did and both of us would do it again in a heartbeat. When I had it done it was a fairly new procedure at our hospital, so they required that it be done in the OR under general anethesia. Now they do it in the office with a couple pain pills.

E.A.

answers from Erie on

Don't regret mine in the least. When I was done I was DONE. And our sex life has never been better ;)

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R.L.

answers from Spartanburg on

I have heard that you have a lot more pain in that area during your monthly cycles, after this type of procedure. Hopefully this helps. I would not do any "Rings" or the Mirena, or "Mini Pills". What many women do not know, or are not told, when they use these, they are actually able to conceive still, but these items prevent the baby/embryo from attaching to the Uterus, causing an abortion. You do not even know this is happening. There are really good birth control pills out there, or the depo provera shot, if you are prone to forget the pills. Hopefully you have a good doctor who can thoroughly explain your choices.

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J.R.

answers from Miami on

I had the tubal litigation. It was tough for me. I was planning the tubal litigatin after my second. But I had some complication and had csection however since my doctor did not do tubal litigation on vaginal delivery when the er csection we did not talk about the tubal litigation so it was not done until 8 weeks after my csection. I have not had any side effects/complication....

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