Tubal Ligation - Lakin,KS

I don't understand. How is the tubal ligation related to nursing? If you're wanting another baby so that you can once again try nursing him, I suggest that is not a good enough reason to have another baby. Nursing another baby will not give you back the time you lost with this baby. I suggest you need to deal with the issue of not having nursed this baby before you try to have another baby.

There are reasons that you had decided that you didn't want another baby and decided to have the tubal ligation. Revisit those reasons and be sure that you're wanting another baby for healthy reasons and not just to deal with the nursing issue.

You can bond with your baby without ever having nursed him. You really need to deal with the issues surrounding this baby before you consider having another one.

Can you re-lactate now??? Try a supplemental nursing system and even if you don't produce any breastmilk, your baby can still breastfeed and get that bonding time that you want and need. I am so sorry your MIL was degrading and ruined your nursing experience. Never let someone do that to you again~ As far as the tubal, most people say its hard to get it reversed--the liklihood of getting pregnant without assistance is very low. I wish you the best and good luck!

From an outsider's point of view (which is what you are asking for), I'd say that 95% of your post is about missing the nursing opportunity with your current baby and not about WANTING another baby.

If it were 95% about wanting another baby and not because of these feelings, I'd say go for it, but I'd caution you that the cost and risks may not be worth it. I only know of one person who had a reversal and successfully had a pregnancy. She jumped through all the hoops and spent an unGodly amount of money to try invitro a few times. She finally became pregnant with triplets. She lost one during the pregnancy and had twin girls. She was so messed up with the hormones that she had HORRIBLE PPD and medical complications. She had to have a hysterectomy a few months after having the babies and then ended up addicted to pain pills for almost 2 years. Not saying this is the norm by any means, but she really struggled for nearly 3 years to have those babies......and to be honest for the wrong reasons....which is another post altogether.

Your MIL was mean. You didn't deserve to be pressured into quitting, but having another baby isn't going to solve that at all. Best of luck to you!

I do not feel that missing the opportunity to nurse is a reason to have another child. There is also no guarantee you would nurse successfully with a second child.

You've had so much turmoil that you are thinking of getting major surgery with limited likelihood of success. No matter what you do, you will not be able to nurse the 9 month old you have - another baby won't change that.

Please get some professional help to deal with your anger at your MIL, your frustration with lactation, and your sadness. Ask your gyn or primary care physician for a referral to a counselor with experience in reproductive issues and/or family issues, and talk this out with someone objective and professional.

Saying that your mother in law "won" and "got what she wanted" - this has to do with her, and not so much with another baby. You need to get some clarity on this so you can make decisions going forward.

Is this about you and what's best for your family, or is this about not letting your mother-in-law "win"? To answer your own question, yes, I do believe you are trying for the wrong reasons.