Tubal Ligation

Hi Lena,

I have a c-section scheduled for Jan. for my third son. I get Hyperemesis with my pregnancies & have decided not to go for a fourth. My husband & I have chosen to have my husband get a vasectomy, rather than a tubal ligation for me (even though I'll already be open during the c-section) because of the complications that can be associated with a tubal ligation. My mom had her tubes tied after giving birth to me, had to have a hysterectomy years later due to complications that arose because of it, and has regretted it all of her life. Post Tubal Ligation Syndrome is a controversial subject- some doctors believe it exists & others don't, but since it happened to my own mother, I'm not willing to take the risk to my body. You can read about it here: http://www.tubal.org/symptoms_of_pts.htm
or Google it & do your own research. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you all the best!

C. : )

Yes. I have. And I regret it. Not because I want more kids. I am done having kids but I have had more problems with periods since then. They are heavier, more irregular and I am miserable for one week before. Come to find out from quite a few people that I talked to including two friends that they too have these problems. I wish they would have spoken up and said something. I never had problems with periods until then. My doctor did not inform me of any problems but I didn't ask either. And that was my fault. Now I have to take birth control pills just to keep me regular. Everybody is different so I would suggest talking with your doctor first to see if this is right for you. I just sounded like a commerical. That was funny but it is true. My husband said he would have been snipped but I told him not to worry since I was having a c-section and they could do it right after I had the baby. Well maybe I should have let him suffer instead.

Hi Lena,

This is a complicated and personal decision probably with a complicated answer. But I'll give it a try! While I have not undergone a tubal, I have worked with many women who have. Tubal ligation is a permanent female sterilization procedure. If you are doing it for contraceptive purposes, you may want to discuss with your partner/husband about the possibility of him undergoing a vasectomy, which can sometimes be successfully reversed if you so choose in the future. A vasectomy is also less invasive than a tubal, meaning that the procedure is easier to do on a man than on a woman. Also, as a feminist side-note, you carried and gave birth to the two wonderful boys that you have so how about getting our partners to take on some reproductive responsibility, right? Hope this helps. - T.

Yes i did it w/nooooo regrets. I too have 2 boys, 21 and 11. Two stepsons 21 and 25. I waited till i was 35 to be sure because i didn't want to be raising babies into
my 40's. We really wanted a girl... Yet i am sooo content w/ what i have been blessed with. I figure one day they will give me grand daughters. My advice, are
you w/out a doubt sure your done? Are you content w/ what you have? And do
you want the absolute peace of mind" month after"" that you dont have to worrie? I truly did feel when my second boy was born 9yrs apart from the other
what did i do? My life was so content then, no more diapers,chasing a 2yr old.nursing etc.
But it was my second marriage and we wanted just one together, he really made
the older boys feel like brothers, we are family there is nothing "step" between
them. So i'm happy, he's at a great age independant yet still thinks i walk on water.... Im 42 now, and very content. I too asked all my friends who did it not one has any regrets, especially after 35.. Hope this helps, free your mind"

Good morning L.,

I am also a mother of two wonderful boys, and it's been almost four years since I had my tubal ligation. I don't have any regrets at all! I enjoy seeing my boys grow up, and am enjoying every moment. I am completely satisfied with the decision I made. The doctor told me that there is still a 4% chance that I could become pregnant. I don't worry about that. I figure that if I do become pregnant, that it's God's will and I'll deal with it and be a mother of three children. :)

S.

Yes? I do regret it I have 3 children 2-boys & 1 girl and the marriage dissolved and I never thought that another man would married a women with 3 kids but I found one. He has no children and I went threw to have a reversal on the tubal ligation and still haven't gotten pregnant yet. I would really think hard about it and consider all options....

Hello L.,

I had a tubal ligation 9 years ago after my last child. Before having the tubal ligation done I was going back to my regular size. I was always between 105-125lbs. After getting my tubes tied I started gaining weight tremendously.I've never been a big eater, I'm still not till this day. Sometimes I wish I hadn't gotten it done. At times I do regret it. My weight has alot to do with that regret. If only I knew what the future held for me, I wouldn't have gotten it done. My life is so different now. I think getting your tubes tied is not for everyone. I know now that it wasn't for me. Good luck. Hopefully a little about my story helps you. Feel free to email me if you like.

I had my tubal done with my 3rd c-section, all at the same time. I don't regret it at all and in fact am very happy with the decision. It is fantastic to not have to worry about the mood swings and weight gain of birth control anymore. Hope this helps.

I am a mother of five. I have been married and divorced twice. I am in my 3rd serious relation ship and he wants another kids with me. I had my tubes done about two years ago. The only thing I regret is not being able to have any more children with the man I love. Crazy I know. I have a lot of kids. But a big family is what I always wanted. There is a possiblity of reversal. Please think about this..if you have ANY reservations, don't do it.

My sister did it after her last baby was born and is glad she did. I was going to after my son was born last year, but changed my mind in the hospital. I had a 35 hour labor and just wasn't in the mood to go through a surgery afterward. I gave them an OK, so long as I had a C-section (they'd be in there anyways), but I didn't end up having a C-section. I have never gone back to get it done. I think I would prefer for my fiance to have himself done because it's less invasive. I've seen commercials for a IUD that is not so permanent. It can be in for 5 years, or taken out if you change your mind. It starts with an M, but I can't remember the name.

I had my tubal ligation when my twins were born (which are 11 now). Every now and then, if I see a baby, I think about what i might do if I hadn't had it done. But overall, I wouldn't call it regret...more like what-if's. Its definitely a decision I would suggest giving serious thought and discuss it with your husband etc.

I had my tubes tied when I delivered my 3rd boy... I was 38 at the time and KNEW my body was finished delivering babies. I have no regrets. But, I knew for sure I didn't want to be pregnant again... I had a lot of pain with the last 2. You have to know yourself and be certain that you are finished having kids. I feel very free now, knowing that we won't get pregnant... especially since #3 was sooner than I had expected!

I just finished recovering from a tubal ligation. I have one boy and one girl and we really feel blessed with our 2. I definitely went through a period ahead of time where I was afraid of regretting my decision later, but now that it's done, I'm really focusing on how much I love my two kids and how much of "Me" I can give them. To get through the scary feelings I also reminded myself of how difficult pregnancy, c-section recovery and taking care of a needy newborn can be. As precious as those little guys are, it really wreaks havoc on our bodies, minds and our family routines. The surgery itself is very simple, done right through the belly button. You feel yucky for a few days and then you're back to normal. My scar will be almost invisible once it's healed all the way. Now I don't have to worry about side effects from birth control pills or getting accidentally pregnant like so many others I know. I hope this helps.

lena,
you dont say how old you are.if your very young you might feel diffrently about wanting more children later.
but in answer of your question.
yes i had it done almost 8 years ago when i had my 4th child and i never regretted it and it was a very easy operation.
if you have any questions feel free to email me.
T.

Hi L.. I was just telling another mom about this procedure...Something you may want to check out...www.essure.com. This is a permanent birth control procedure that can be done in the doctor's office (no hospital visit required). There is no cutting, no burning, and no general anesthesia. Much less invasive than getting your tubes tied. Since it is permanent, you definitely want to be sure your family is complete and you do not want any more children. Its a great option for women who are looking for something permanent but without the side effects of getting your tubes tied.

Lena,
I had it done 29 years ago and to this day I have no regrets. The most important thing you have to remember is that you are DONE having children. If not then you might regret it later on.
I have 2 of my daughters who have had it done and neither of them regret it as they feel they have their family complete.
One has 2 children and the other has 4 girls. When I had mine done I had 7 children with three of them being triplets. So I felt I had my hands full and felt my family was complete.
This is something you and hubby have to discuss and decide for sure.
There is also another form called Essure that is done in the office. I recommend checking into this also.
I see also that many are talking of their hubbys doing the vascetomy. I have more probem with that as it has been known thta healthy men develop prostate problems and even cancer.
The tubal today is much easier than it was 29 years ago. It is an in and out same day procedure.
The best thing to do is make sure you do a lot of research on both before having any thing done.
Praying you will make the right decision.
Blessings,
B.

yes I have a tubal ligation done and yes I do regret it. I have two wonderfull boys as well 5 and 6. I am very active with them, school, boyscouts, sports, and I do work. So I am very busy a lot of the time. I am no longer with the boys dad. He is some what active with them he has his good months and his bad. I have the most wonderfull boyfirend and when we can take time and aford it husband. My kids love him and everything is good. I got my tubes tied a week after my 21st. I did it becasue I thought it was the right thing to do and that was what there father wanted. I wish so bad that I could go get them untied two is a good number but I wouldn't mind one more just to keep me a little busier its not like I need to be but I would love to be. I didn't know all the birth control things they had out. I only knew of the shot (that didn't work with me, I was one that got really emotional and irritated on it easy) and the pill was what I was on when I got pregnant. aLL I know is that I would do anything to untie my tubes. Good luck with what ever way you go.

Dear Lena, I had a tubal ligation almost 27 years ago. We thought it was the best idea because of all the "advice" we were getting at the time. We had 3 children in 3 years so we were very busy plus of financial reasoning we did it. We regretted it within the year and for a long time afterwards. I always counsel people to not do something they cant change their mind on. Have your husband done if you want to do something surgical. At least that way you have a better chance of a reversal if you do change your mind. We have adopted 3 other children and are very blessed with our large family. I urge you not to... N.

"tying" of the tubes is great!!!!!!!! Uninhibited sex with out worry, possibly easier periods, never worrying if you are "late"! You bet I did it and I am stoked! I felt that if I really wanted other children somewhere in the distant future, there are plenty that need homes.
I had my first in May of 2001 and then surprise, twins in Sept 2003! Three kids in two years! Also, I run the risk of twins again, as twins run rampant through my family tree.
In January 2005 I got the IUD, because I wasn't really sure. But I still ended up getting pregnant a few times and miscarrying. Also, my periods became horrible. Really bad cramping and very heavy flow and increased duration. After a little over a year of that I was fed up; and as my children grew and some of the day to day life became easier with my kids getting older. I realized I did not want to start over and have another baby, or babies! I had the procedure done in July 2006 and i would never change a thing!

Also , the recovery is pretty easy, however, I also delivered all my kids via C-section, so I am not sure if that helped with my recovery experience.
Check with your benefits and prepare for the cost. Also, do a hospital check as we have 6 hospitals in a 50 mile radius, we found that some hospitals are cheaper , too! That can equate to hundreds, or maybe even thousands of dollars price difference!

Good luck to you, and I hope that helps!

Hi Lena.
I had my tubes cut and tied when I gave birth via c-section to my 3rd child 5 1/2 years ago. I do not regret choosing to not have any more babies. It's a very personal decision. And even under the wonderful advice posted by all the Moms here, ultimately it is YOUR decison. If you're NOT 100% completely sure, then there are other birth control methods available to you.
With that said,I would like to also tell you in my situation my periods became much heavier and more painful after the tubal. I was forewarned of the possibility of this occuring and chose to go ahead. I recommend doing a lot of research before making any decision either way.
Good luck with making a decision that you are comfortable with.
L.

I had a tubal ligation after my 3rd child, I have an eighteen year old, a 5 year old and a 3 year old, and I am 40 years old, it is an easy recovery, and it feels great to not have to worry about birth control !!!!!!

Hi Lena ~ I had my tubes tied when I was 30. That was almost 14 years ago. I don't regret it at all. I have 2 girls from my first marriage and for me, I did not want to have multiple kids from multiple dads. Just one dad was enough. We divorced when I was 27 and I began dating at 28/29 and at that time, sharing kids and dads was not what I wanted in my life. Five years ago I married my 2nd husband and he has no kids. I was honest with him about what I wanted and although he wanted kids, he knew I did not. We've had one conversation in our marriage wherein he asked me to have the surgery reversed. I thought about it for a few days and realized I made the right decision for me and told him no I don't want more kids. Now, my girls are 21 and 18 and I just don't see the point in starting over. As it turned out, it was the right thing for me to do. However, it took me a while to come to that decision. I am not and have not ever been a fan of kids; only my own. My current husband is fine with not having any kids of his own and we have agreed to wait for our grandchildren. I would suggest to you that you examine how you feel and why you would be thinking of having the surgery. It is reversible but it is costly to do and your chances are slim of getting pregnant once the surgery is reversed. So, if you ever think there is a possibility of your wanting to have more children, you should not do it. There are plenty of birth controls out there to help prevent your future pregnancy until you are certain of what it is you want. I wish you luck and hope you reach the right decision for you.

OK I saw that you already have a lot of responses but I have mixed emothions of having my tubial. I have 3 kids and I dont want more I was onlt about 70% sure when I did it. But whats done is done and you are forced to accept it. I want to adopt down the road. I love not having to worry about birth control (I have 3 kids in 20 months... twins and a boy) my husband and I were not the best at being careful. Also finacially 3 kids is all we can afford. that may sound harsh but kids are expensive. My down side is My periods are very irregular and they come with mixed emotions i.e. i am very horny but picking fights and overly emotional. I do NOT regret my decision but it has some down sides. Hope this helps

Hello Lena,
I had that done long time ago. I have 2 children now 21 and 23. I had the procedure done at the same time when my daughter was born. It was easy that way since I had a C section. I have no regrets. It is always hard to raise children but handling 2 instead of 3+ or so children it makes it a little easier and you can have more quality time with them. I am happy with my 2 children and I never wished I wanted more. Physically and emotionally I did not have any problems and you can enjoy having sex without the worry of getting pregnat. I made my decision because my husband did not want to have a vasectomy. He wanted more children but I didnt. He comes from a family of 9 children and they are all wonderfull but that wasn't for me. So it is your decision if you do not wish to have any more children.

It's a very simple procedure. I had it done 28 years ago. I have never been sorry.
In this day and age, two children and a full time job is about all anyone can handle.
It truely is up to you, it was a wonderful decision for me.
Good luck sweetie
L.

Hi Lena,

I am a mother to two beautiful healthy little girls. I had a Tubal Ligation and do not regret it one bit. I have always known that I only want two children and so does my husband. You do not feel any different. I cannot tell my tubes are tide. Feel free to ask me any questions.

D.

I had it many years ago and have never regretted it. I always felt that if I wanted more children I could adopt. Never did.

had one after my 4th child. no regrets. make sure you are really done having kids before you do it. they are irreversible now.

NO REGRETS!!! But I had reallly heavy periods for the first year after I had it.

Hi Lena, I've had my tubes tied after my last baby 3 ys ago. Every person is different and the circumstances leading to making that decision varies from one situation to the other. My decision to have the procedure done was because I am almost 46 years old, have 4 children and my soon to be ex has not been a very responsible man (and will not be for quite some time). After I had my procedure done I did feel a little sad, which was understandable, and now that I'm soon to be single again, I wonder what if? But then reality hits me and I know I made the right choice. If I were about 5-10 years younger (and had 2 less kids) I would think twice about having the procedure done. So, I would suggest you consider all the pros and cons, and have in mind your situation and circumstances. Finances play a big part on the decision making as well. Lena, I hope this is helpful to you and wish you the best.

Hello Lena

I had my tubes tied in 2004 and I have not regretted it. If you have any doubts do not do it because if there is doubt there is still a chance you want to have more children. So why not use another form of birth control? For me I new in my heart that I did not want any more children. I hope this helps.

Hi Lena -

Did you know that a tubal ligation nowadays does NOT have to be permanent? Instead of going in and "cutting" your tubes, many OBs now choose to use little plastic clips to prevent the egg from traveling down your fallopian tube into your uterus. Just as effective as traditional tube tying, but it leaves you the option of having them removed if you choose to have another baby in the future

I am a single mom of 3 boys (12, 8, and 2) I had a tubal after delivering my 2 yr old. I divorced my older 2 sons father, and a eventually started dating again. Got pregnant and my boyfriend left shortly thereafter. I knew that this was something that I didn't want to go through again. Raising two by myself was hard enough, and I couldn't see myself terminating the pregnancy at all. So I decided to have the tubal. I didn't want to be on birth control again. I don't regret my decision at all. The procedure was quick. Not a long recovery time at all. No complications afterwards either. If I meet someone who is adamant about having more children, we will have to adopt or else he's just not the man for me. I would say just weigh all your options and make sure that this is what's best for you. Think 3-5 years into the future. Could you see yourself having another baby? I hope this helps some :)

Hi Lena,
I had one 15 months ago after my little girl was born. She was C-section so was my son 4 years ago. I was very ill with my son had the HELLP syndrome platelets drop and kidney's start to fail. The reason I had one done is because of my age and my body doesn't do well with pregnancies. I was fine with my little girl, but I have to say I was so tired, sick every morning and the way she sat inside me was so uncomfortable it was a rough one. I do sometimes think of having another baby, but I feel so blessed for my two sweet loves. Another reason for having it done I just didn't want to think about birth control. My doctor also said I was such high risk and said it probably would be a good idea not to have any more children. Of course it was my husband and my decision we made the right one for us. I wish you well.

I decided against tubal ligation and had my husband get a vasectomy. It's an office visit for him versus a hospital stay for me.

I had a tubal ligation after my third child and 2nd relationship. I was 33 yrs. old with my first child and 40 with my third. I think age plays a large roll in your decision. Often times life brings change that you don't expect and you don't want to have a tubal ligation too soon in life. For me, a tubal ligation was great. No worries, even during menopause with that change of life baby! Best of luck to you.

I had mine done when i had my last child. I dont for one minute regret it at all. The freedom of knowing that I didnt need to worry about having another baby that i did not want was wonderful. I have 2 girls and had a son who i lost as a baby so i was done having kids. I wouldnt trade my girls for anything in the world.
I had tried the pill, IUD and to be honest I didnt like any of those methods for me. If your done having all the babys you want then by all means have it done. If there is even a thought of maybe wanting another one then dont.
Me im glad to this day that i did have it done. Good luck in whatever you decide.