TTC 2Nd - No Cycle

Did the doctor do a blood test to see if you're ovulating? When I went off the pill, I didn't have much of a period, only spotting, but she tested me and I was still ovulating. I got pregnant four months later. Have you tried taking your temperature or ovulation predictor tests? They might also help put you at ease. And the way I see it, you have a child already so you know your parts are all in working order :) Good luck - I hope it happens for you soon!

Hi C.. I had something similiar, I guess. I went off of the pill springtime last year. Then I started to have a cycle every two weeks and I was afraid that there was something wrong with me and that we wouldn't be able to have our little one. I had an ultrasound done to make sure that everything looked alright, and it did. The doctor gave me a prescription and I believe that it was progesterone to get my cycles regular. He gave us hope though, that if this didn't work that we had other options as far as getting pregnant. He didn't talk in depth about any of the other options because he didn't think that we would have to go those routes, but it was very nice to know that there were other options. The progesterone worked, I had one normal cycle, then I got pregnant. Good luck!

A.

I do not have any advice about getting pregnant. I do have advice about the spacing. Do not worry, my girls are four years apart and get along great! They love to play with each other, right now they are 2 and 6. My 6 year old really looks out for her little sister, and the 2 year old worships her big sister. Don't worry about spacing. If you have a loving family, your kids can get along and be friends at any age!!

Hi-with my first, it took me a few months to get back on cycle after going off the pill. I realized that I was on a 6-week cycle (so was ovulating 4 weeks after my period-not 2). Don't know if you're experiencing anything similar but thought you'd like to know what we figured out.
Also a comment about your kids being 2 years apart--just to encourage you, my sister and I are 5 years apart and BEST FRIENDS. One thing nice about growing up a few years apart is that we were never at the same level so there was no competition-in school, over boys, etc.... I absolutely wish you luck but know that sibs can be great friends with any distance.
Take care!
J.

A good friend of mine used accupuncture to normalize her cycles when she went off the pill in order to start her family. She has 3 kids now. You could also ask your ob/gyn to do a baseline hormone test to see if your hormone levels are normal.
Best of Luck!
N.

We did Clomid as well for both pregnancies. I had twins the 2nd time. Just to let you know my 9yr old daughter is 4 yrs older then her twin sisters, and they are very close and great friends.

Good luck,

L.

It sounds like you have gotten some great advise so far, but here is my .02. Have you tried to chart your morning temperature? I highly reccomend the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility. Used it when I was TTC three times and it worked like a charm. It took 3 months each time. It is pretty handy for trying not to get pregngnt too. One of the many things I learned is that you can get your period and NOT ovulate. As well as ovulate at irregular cycles. I have a 9 month old and I haven't figured out my pattern yet.
And, like the others have said don't worry about the ages your kids will be friends (and maybe sometimes enemies) no matter what their age difference.

acupuncture worked really well for me and for another friend of mine. for me, it restarted my periods after several months without. for my friend - - she got pregnant! good luck!

Hey! I've been there! I was on the pill for 2 years and it took almost 3 years to get my cycle back. My doctor said that everything was fine and just to be patient. Well, patience is really hard when you are ready now - so I understand the frustration. We kept trying even through I didn't have a cycle and I did get pregnant. I had one cycle and then nothing for 2 months and then I felt weird and found out that I was 4 weeks pregnant. Odd things do happen so don't get frustrated. We had 4 kids in 6 years - kind of a once we figured it out we couldn't turn it off !!!! HAHAHA!!

Good luck!

You might look into a Dr who specilaiZes in fertility. Just to make sure you are ovulating and to get you on a normal cycle. They say the average time to get pregnany is 6 months. If you have only been trying for the 3-4 months it may just take some more time. I have also have friends stop the pill and they felt like it took 3-4 months to get it out of their system.

You might read TAKE CHARGE OF MY FERTILITY.

I too wanted my kids close in age to be good friends. 3 miscariages later they are 3 yrs and 3 months apart and the best of friends. They foster a great relationship.

GOOD LUCK, be patient. it will happen.

I don't think what you're going through is unusual. When TTC our first I went off the pill in April 2005. I charted BBT to track fertility. I ovulated once at the end of July (no pregnancy, 130+day cycle) and once on Sept 9 (conceived my son!). He's now 15 months old and we'd like to TTC again, but I still haven't gotten my period back from having him.

Right now, and while TTC my son I took Vitex (chasteberry) and drank lots of green tea. The Vitex has good clinical studies behind it and is a natural cycle regulator - you might consider that. Although since it's herbal it won't have nearly the strong and direct effect of hormones. The green tea is good for you anyway, and I've noticed it makes my cervical mucus more fertile (TMI maybe, but hey...).

I always assumed my kids would be 2 years apart too, but with no period in sight I figure it's just Mother Nature's way of telling me to wait a few more months. I think any time between 2 and 3 years apart is good spacing and your kids will be good friends. I'm sure things will come around for you eventually. If you're slim/borderline underweight, try putting on a couple pounds (this is harder than it sounds!) If you exercise a lot, make sure you're eating well. If you're still breastfeeding (I still nurse my son 2x/day) this can also affect your fertility, though lots of moms I know have still managed to get pregnant. If you haven't picked up a copy fo Taking Charge of Your Fertility by Toni Weschler, I highly suggest you do. You'll learn a lot about your body and the TTC process is much less frustrating. Anyway, good luck!

Hello. I went off the pill in April/May of 2004, I wasn't getting my period regularly (every 3 months) and was not getting pregnant, I went in for an appointment and talked to the dr. he prescribed a progesterone to help me get my period, I started getting them but was not getting pregnant, turns out I was not ovulating, he then put me on Clomid, and I got pregnant after one round this took about a year. I got pregnant May of 2005. I am hoping that we wont have the same problems when we decide to have number 2. Good luck.

Did you breastfeed? Sometimes it can stop your menstruation. Even without menstruating you could still be cycling. I went through that twice, and ended up pregnant both times. Look on the bright side, no messy time of the month.

I suggest you go back to the dr. It does sound like you are not ovulating - a situation I had with my first. I too then had to go on Clomid - it took a while to figure out but then I had not yet had a child. The first dr. just tried Clomid, but the second dr. specialized in fertility and diagnosised me with a mild case of polycystic ovarian system - a fancy way a saying I din't ovulate regularly so it was difficult to get pregnant. With the second dr. I did two rounds of Clomid, one to get the dosage right and then was pregant after 2 months!

TTC can be very difficult. I would go back to the dr. and talk about options. It can't hurt anything, and if you don't think your dr. is responsive, I would go to another one, maybe who specializes in fertility. I know I felt better when I had a plan.

Also, my sister and I are 3 years apart and we are in our late 30s and to this day are extremely close and friends.

My best friend is my sister who is 12 years younger than I. So please put that idea that they have to be close in age to be "best friends" to rest. I am constanly amazed by the great advice that the moms on this website give, but I would like to add one thing. Sometimes the stress of working really "gets" to us, so maybe a little relaxation therapy, such as yoga could help. I would, of course, try all the good advice you have received, but would also try accupunture and yoga. Good luck and God Bless.