Trying to Toilet Train 3 Yr Old Boy

Updated on October 10, 2006
T.C. asks from Evansville, IN
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My son was doing very well in the last few months with staying dry. He absolutly refuses to have a bowel movement in the toilet. I have tried pullups, having him without a diaper. and now he was resorted to have tantrums when i ask him to potty. He would tell me and we would go before. I am close to having his baby sister and I would really like him out of diapers before her birth in DEC. I don't understand why he would suddenly revert back. He was doing so well. Any ideas would be appreciated. I would love to get him fully toilet trained. Thanks

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So What Happened?

I asked his pediatrician also about this problem and he said the same thing. No normal child ever goes to kindergarten in diapers. He said it is probobly jealousy that is making him revert. And if he shows interest in pottying again to allow him to do so. I have my fingers crossed that once he sees his baby sister then he wont feel like diapers anymore. He knows that he has a sister on the way. we take him to every ultrasound and drs appt so he can be part of the experience. But i think the jealousy is that i have his sisters room done already and tell him he must not play in there and mess it up he is to play in his own room and i think maybe that caused some of this. But i apreciate the responses cause it is very frustrating to see him revert after doing so well.
Thanks everyone!

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N.B.

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My son was trained like overnight on the going pee. But the other he only did 2x in his pants. Mainly because the 1st time I had him stand there and watch me empty it into the toilet and rinse them out. The 2nd time I made him do it! He never did it again! So make him clean it up if he doesn't want to go in the toilet. Also tell him the baby will need a big brother to watch out for her. Might make him feel like he has a purpose with the new baby. But do not use pull ups except for overnight. And if he does something in his pants. Make him clean them. They do not want to spend their time cleaning iky stuff from their pants! The only exception was if he was sick and had diarreaha (sp?)I hope this helps!

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L.D.

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My son will be 3 in January and we are having the EXACT same problem! I just don't know what to do! If you get any good advice please let me know and if I find something that works, I will let you know as welL! Thanks!

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A.C.

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In my baby books, it says not to try and potty train a child when they are getting ready to or have gone through a major change in their life such as moving, a death in the family, or a new baby. For whatever reason they tend to revert back. My own daughter was fully potty trained three months before my son was born. After he was born, she started having accidents again. I started letting her be my "big helper" with my son and it made a world of differance. Once she new she wasn't being replaced the accidents stopped. Maybe you can make your son more apart of the baby. Have him feel your tummy. (My daughter would go with me to hear his heart beat.) Tell him how he will have a little sister to play with soon. Any thing to help him understand he won't be replaced. Hope this helps. A.

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B.C.

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my son seemed to catch on fast at first and thought it was going to be easy, but he wouldn't have a bowel movement on the potty for the longest time because he said it hurt. i tried given him stickers and putting fruit loops in the potty. i even gave him 1 m&m for going potty and i would give him more if he had a bowel movement. i finally gave up and backed off and eventually he tried and he saw what a big response he got from me that he was excited to do it more and more. he loved picking out which sticker he wanted to put on his potty next! i hope this helps.

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S.M.

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Congrats on this milestone!!! I agree with the moms so far, but offer what happened with us.
My son was very young (22 months) when potty trained. He would only poop in his sleep, when wearing a pull up. He actually had a blockage. When we used the laxative once and 'reset' his body, he was fine. I just wanted to throw that in there, so all aspects were thought of...
Good luck!

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