Trying to Move On

I'm going through the same thing! Only, we are married and have only been married for just over a year. We dated for 4 years and became pregnant during a break up! I thought it would be best to get married....bad idea! We moved up to Louisville about 5 months ago and I just feel all alone. We fought constantly and about a week ago, he moved out. It's been really weird and hard to get used to. I feel the same way you do--that it just seems hopeless but it's SO hard to move on. The only advice I can give is to work hard in school and take the time to focus all you have on your child. I've started taking walks in Cherokee park everyday with my little girl and making sure things are as normal as they can be for her.
I've been with my husband for so long I don't know how to even go out and meet people! Feel free to email me anytime and I hope I helped at all!
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You can make it with out him!!! I'm 24, and my daughter just turned 5. I made it through college, and worked at the same time, graduated, and now I have a great job. So yes it is possible. I'm not saying it's easy, it's not!!! But it WILL make you stronger, that I will promise you! As far as finances, he has to pay child support. I also had my lawyer draw up papers stating that he had to pay half of all school expenses (daycare, school supplies, etc.), but that's up to you. Now I'm originally from Indiana, so Kentucky may be differnt. But, being a student, you should qualify for some financial help with day care costs. And WIC ( pays for some food, milk, bread, cheese, etc.), and there should be health care for your daughter. Also, with your schooling there are tons of grants for students with dependents, take advantage of that.

If you need anything else, just let me know! Good luck, and don't give up!

I see that you are at a turning point. If he is abusive then I would definitely remove myself and daughter from the situation. But, since he is the childs father and you devoted 4 years of your life to him maybe you should think about what is causing the arguments? What changed? Have you thought about seeking counsel? Do you love him? If there is anyway you two could work it out? I would try. Your daughter needs a loving family environment. If that isn't possible THEN I would consider leaving and you CAN make it on your own. I was married and divorced with 2 girls by myself and made it but it's tough. There is hope and a lot of options. I cannot say exactly what I would do since I don't know all the situation. I do know that seeking the Lord helped me through my struggle. Getting in a good bible based church and seeking Godly counsel will help. If you need anything at all please feel free to contact me. I will pray for you and your daughter. Blessings...

ok sweetie we need to have a looooooooooooong talk....first off you CAN make it without him ok. You need to find an apt. within your budget, or consider moving in the same city or county that your family lives in so they can help you with babysitting during your work days. If you choose to stay in Louisville, then you need to find a place within your budget. I live in the southend of louisville...i wouldnt live anywhere else. By all means show him the door!!!! If you all are arguing and fighting then you all should have broke up a long time ago. Your daughter is suffering from all this nonsense. There isnt enough love in the world to keep me in a situation like that, especially when i was in a worse situation myself at one time in my life. You need to move on and do what you have to do for your child. The moving on part comes naturally after you have gotten yourself your own place.