Trying to Get Pregnant a Second Time and It's Not Happening

It took almost a year of trying for my husband and I to finally get pregnant with baby #2. We had actully given up, and decided it wasn't going to happen. Then one night after a long day of unpacking, we had just moved to Orlando, we had some fun (TMI) and a month later I was pregnant ;) so maybe take the stress out of "trying" and just have fun. Good luck!

Keep trying but at 6 months I would consult your OB/GYN. I had my 1st baby at 35, tried for #2 at age 37 only to find my body was in early menopause and I had thyroid issues. I was shocked! How could things change so drastically in a year and a half? Went to a fertility expert and everything only to be told it wasn't going to happen, that my eggs were gone. My story does have a happy ending: 8 years after #1, I had baby #2 at age 43. Apparently I had one good egg left in me! He is happy and healthy and getting ready to celebrate his first B-day!
Good Luck!

I would NOT be concerned. STOP TRYING!!! Seriously. The stress you are putting on your body is enough to make it turn into the "fight or flight" and it's in flight mode.

I say this from someone who tried for FOUR YEARS to get pregnant the first time and then was pregnant for five years in a row. STOP TRYING. Have sex for fun....nothing else but fun...don't worry about getting pregnant...you aren't using any precaution or birth control so just HAVE FUN!!!

This will happen when your body is ready and not a minute before. If you run off the to the OB/GYN - you will get a "label" on you - is that what you want? Oooohhh...PCOS....post infertility or something else. Your body isn't the same after your first baby....

I GET your stress. I UNDERSTAND how you are feeling....instead of trying to keep up with your best friends - be happy for them....just have sex for fun!!!

RELAX!!! PLEASE!!! PLEASE!! PLEASE!! Cannot stress this enough! Stop using the sticks and watching your cycles. just have fun.

I know it os hard, but try to be patient...it can take 3 years or more before your body is back to any sort of pre-baby normal rythym. It is way too early to be concerned, but I know exactly where you are coming from. Lots of luck and positive baby thoughts to you!!!

Give it 6 months at least. YOu could also get a screen to check thyroid levels and progesterone around 21 days.

I also had my first baby at 32 with no problem getting pregnant. It took 6 months at age 35. Reports show that fertility starts dropping at age 28, so it will definitely take longer at age 35.

We also had our first child around 32 after only 2 months. Then it took us 20 months to get pregnant with our second. My OB didn't start infertility testing until after a year (and quite frankly was a waste of time and money for our situation as they found nothing wrong with either one of us). I would highly recommend that BOTH of you start taking a good quality multivitamin (prenatal) and Omega 3-6-9. I would also start charting your basal body temps. instead of just using ovulation sticks.... those only show if your body is gearing up to ovulate, not if you actually ovulate. Only charting your temps will show if you really ovulated. You can do this for free on line at Fertility Friend or read Taking Charge of Your Fertility. I also read The Infertility Cure (based on traditional Chinese Medicine). My husband added additional supplements/amino acids found in men's fertility aid supplements. (Within 2 months of implementing the extra amino acids for him and following some points from the Infertility Cure book for both of us we got pregnant.)

I wish you the best of luck. I understand the frustration and anger and disappointment every month when your period starts. I can tell you that the instant you get that positive pregnancy test in your hand it will erase the pain from all of those months!

Don't stress & have fun trying - we had no problem w our first 2 and then took almost 2 years w our 3rd - my ob did some testing and we were both fine. I stressed so much every month, and then finally gave up and then we were pregnant! I wouldn't change anything about it though - our baby girl is just perfect & we all adore her!

Hang in there & sending baby vibes ur way!
~T.

My doc said not to get concerned until it's been more than 6 months. It took us a year to get pregnant with our 2nd.

Very likely your OB won't give you the time of day since you've only had 3 mo of trying. I have read several things about changing your diet to help improve your chances of fertility, but don't know of anything right offhand -- still, it's something you could google.

Infertility specialists say it can take a whole year of trying before you become pregnant. Secondary infertility is a problem for many women. Things to look at are your diet. Do you eat enough protein? Get a thyroid test to see if yours is working well. Do yoga 5 days a week for 40 minutes to re-align your body and bring it to optimum health.
If you are too thin or too fat it can affect your ability to conceive. Too thin like a Hollywood actress 10% below normal weight for your height. Too heavy is over 200 lbs.
If you are stressed it will affect your ability to become pregnant. So mainly relax and remember 35 is not over the hill for pregnancy. If you have ever had a baby your body will repeat the performance. A woman's fertility is often as good at 38- 42 as it was at age 16. That is why so many women have a surprise pregnancy after they have teenagers.

While it's frustrating, you shouldn't be concerned until it's been six months or longer based on your age. It's only been four months (I know, long months), but give it time. For most people it doesn't happen as quickly as it did the first time for you. Good luck!

It'll happen! It took 8 months for our 1st & 4 YEARS for our 2nd. I saved all of our baby stuff & finally got so frustrated that I had a garage sale & sold a bunch of it. Low & behold I was pregnant 2 weeks later. I completely feel your pain ~ both of my sisters-in-law got pregnant (both were DONE having kids, so they were both accidents). We both got checked out & were fine. One trick we tried was every other day. It sounds fun at first, but after a while it isn't so fun, but we got a baby out of it! :o) Good luck!