Okay I feel your pain. I'm in same boat. We only go where my hubby wants to go: which are 3-4 visits to see his family every year since I've
known him.
I quit fighting it. Luckily I traveled extensively before I met him.
Having said that, I would Disneyland w/the kids when they get older.
I have a very open personality & am very social & can self entertain: went on 2 cruises and they were hard even for me. He'd probably hate it. Which in turn means you will have an awful time. His bad attitude will ruin it for you and you'll be stuck.
My theory now is don't make him do anything he doesn't want to do (well
you can't do that anyway).
My hubby & I went to counseling, he changed for a bit but is back to
himself. He's now over 40 and I have seen him change drastically into that grumpy old man.
Luckily I have a great group of friends that give me support, fun & laughter.
One friend has a similar hubby & she has decided to just get/keep a positive attitude.
So that's what I've decided to do. I can't change him but I CAN change my attitude . I've decided to keep a positive attitude, change what I can, go with whatever it is I can't change, try not to swim upstream & buck the system. It is a constant struggle but I can say that I am much happier since deciding to do this and live this way.
You sound like me: you like change. Your hubby sounds like mine: he
hates change.
So work "with" what you have. I think you'll find yourself happier. I finally figured that out and I am finally happier.
I get my way in other things but on the vacation thing: I've onceded.
You know the saying: "Happy Wife, Happy Life" (Seal says that about his wife/life w/Heidi Klum" well in my instance it's "Happy Hubby, Less Trouble for me-Wifey". ha ha.
I take my happiness where I can get it. So hang in there. If you end up going on this trip, try to make it as fun as possible for yourself: buy yourself a small, inexpensive trinket there, take fun pictures of your kids, try some new foods there, call a close friend on a day you need a pick me up while you're there etc. Good luck sweetie! :)