D.S.
You need to go back to letting here crying it out. Also, we lay with our 33 month old for no more than 10 minutes and that's it. 9.5 times out of 10 she knows that's it and goes to bed on her own. If you don't want to get into bed with her, lay on the floor next to her bed. She needs the comforting, soon enough you would be in there when the monsters come. If she gets used to you there for a short amount if time it will be easier. Good luck. Mom of a 33 month old girl and a 6 month old boy