Training Bra / Undershirts for Picky Early Blooming 7-Year Old

Hi M.,

I am sorry to say that kids are just cruel, if it is not this, it will be something else. Unfortunatley, I do know what you are going through two of my daughters have been through this as well. My daughter who is 13 is in a DD and still growing. My suggestion to you is to have a talk with your daughter now about some of the kinds of things that the kids might say or do and let her know that it is not acceptable and that she should let you know right away if they start doing these things. Have a talk also with the school and let them know of your concerns and that you want your child protected the best way possible. I did this with both daughters schools and needless to say the reactions were completely different. My older daughters school was extremely supportive and held a meeting for all the older grades that would have contact with my daughter and told the kids that this kind of behaviour was unexceptable and that anyone who engaged in the behaviour would be suspended and if it continued would be expelled. My other daughters school basically told me kids will be kids and that she needed to get a tougher skin. My daughter now goes to a different school and they are very good about things. She doesn't get teased any more but she does get the stares from the boys. On the other topic of how picky she is, I would advise you to take her shopping and have her try the bras on until you find a few that fit comfotably for her. I have to say it sounds like she may have a touch of OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder) I have this and I too am very, very picky about how things fit, and if my clothes don't fit right they come off and I try something else. My socks are the worst though, I cannot stand if the seams are crooked and sit on my toes wrong. I know it is frustrating and tiresome but if she does have OCD she can't help it, try to be patient. Some other signs of OCD may be washing hands a lot, making sure her blanket is just so, keeping things really clean, having to have her homework or other projects perfect before she will let people see them. The list goes on and on and symptoms can be different for every one. Good luck and God bless.

D.

I also have an 8 year old who is starting to go through this. Like a previous poster said, I went with the sports bras that aren't padded. They're comfy for her and do not have the slipping straps nor the hooks in the back. She can just pull them on and go. Target has a lot of different designs and Kohl's does too. I would also have her try on many different styles until she finds the types that she is most comfortable in.

Your daughter may not have the "strap" problem that you did, because her classmates may very well be wearing spaghetti-tanks and "bralettes" under their clothes. There are also many styles of tanks and even t-shirts with built-in bras.

I would start at Limited Too, where there are stretchy pullover bras, and your daughter will feel comfortable shopping. I can't put a photo in this reply, but here is a link to a page of their website showing a bralette with a puppy design. As you can imagine, there are many girls wearing these who don't actually need support! http://www.limitedtoo.com/detail/1070267

my daughter is 6 and has what when i was little was called titty buttons. in some clothes (swim suites & summer dresses are the worst) she has cleavage. I buy her just sports bra things from walmart. they are pretty cheap she likes them cause the come with designs on them and matching panties. She loves littlest pet shop so she has a ton of those. As far as the whole being made fun of because she has a bra on you'd be surprised at how many little little girls are already wearing undershirts/training bra's. You just need to be careful with the training bra's it is sooo hard to find a real bra style with out an inch of padding. why a training bra has padding i don't know.