Toxic Coworker

I know you've had other posts about him. He might be trying to drive you crazy :) Are you just referring to the Outlook invitation to accept the training? If so and there wasn't a date to respond by, I don't think it's a huge deal. Although maybe not very professional but I think all of the other issues you have with him are making this situation seem worse than it is. Don't let this get to you. Just continue to try to avoid him except when necessary.

F.,

From your previous posts, you have been dealing with this person for a long time. I am not sure what type of work you do, but from you mentioning lab and procedure, I suspect it is some medical office. He obviously does not like you, it is just his personality or you are having a lot of absenteeism due to you having to take care of your child that is causing them to cover for you alot. That can cause irritation. It might be too that you are too sensitive to what he does or think and if he can text you over your time (previous post) and you respond, means that you are giving this person more control over you than necessary. You are there to do your work and act professionally and do not let the coworker get under your skin. If you send a meeting request out to do a procedure and he does not come, then that's not your problem. Why are you letting his decision to not respond bug you. That's because you are poisoned already by him in the past that every single thing he does gets to you. You have to focus on doing your work, be cordial and let them bicker in the corner if they have to. I think you are encouraging his behavior toward you by giving what he says and does so much attention. Ignore and do what you have to do. If he is constantly negative, then counteract that with positive. Respect wins respect.

My rule of thumb would be to do what was required of me and just let Mr. Toxic do or not do whatever he darn well felt like. For example, if I sent out the invite and he didn't respond - that's his problem. Unless you're his manager, it's not your job to babysit him.

Speaking of managers, I may tell his manager Mr Toxic didn't respond so Ms. Manager could choose how to deal with it, but woudn't go any farther than that.

How to deal with him? Professionally. I work with quite a few people who don't think our connected activities are priority until they need something. If he is not responding, then send him one more email about the meeting and copy whomever is your manager and assigned this training task to you. You could also confirm the meeting with the group and copy this manager. Then he won't be able to say he didn't know, etc. Also, you could take the sent email about the meeting and use that to send the reminder. CYA all the time. Here, sometimes copying the manager gets their butt in gear.

Talk to HR.
Document everything.
He sounds insubordinate.
Tell HR.
The Employer/HR... should deal with him.

Be careful... because people like this like to 'blame' others. So, DOCUMENT everything... and tell HR. Because... you do NOT want this/him... to affect YOUR standing as an employee or your conduct.

all the best,
Susan

If you are supposed to train him (and others?), and he isn't responding, go forward with your training. Let any management know who was there and how the training went.

Is this what makes him toxic? It is inconsiderate, but if there are further issues, do you need to talk to HR?

I'm not sure if I understand the whole situation ... he isn't responding about setting up a meeting? If he's one of a group deciding a time, I would just move on and plan your meeting. If he doesn't show up or creates problems, I would try talking to him and if that doesn't go well, talk directly to his manager.

I almost said kick him in the family jewels but then that would only get you into trouble. LOL

Seriously, if he needs this training for his job, it's his responsibility to show up for the training. If I were you, I wouldn't let it worry me.

So far, he's not toxic so much as just being a jerk. People who wait to the last minute to accept/decline/reschedule meetings are just waiting to see if something 'more' important comes up in the mean time. You have others in the group who will be there. The world does not revolve around this guy no matter how much he likes to think it does.

What do you mean by toxic? bo , bad attitude, what? Did you have a deadline to respond ? We could really use more info ,...!! C. S.

It's so hard to deal with people like that. Try not to let him bother you. Go forward with your job and do the best you can regardless of what he says or does (or doesn't do.) Now that I think of it, I need to take my own advice...LOL Good luck to you!!

This is what I would do. I would document every time he is subordinate or disrespectful. I would blind copy your boss on emails you send to him pertaining to the training you need to give him. I would talk to his and your own boss about the stuff that is going on before going to HR. That shows a bit of willingness to work out the problem and get passed it. If that doesn't work, then go to HR with the documentation of the things this person has put you through. In other words be professional about it and take care of it through the correct measures so you don't lose your job over someone else's unwillingness to work with you. I hope this helps a little.

D. P.

Send him an email CC or BCC your boss and tell him you're ready to cross train him whenever he's ready. The rest is best ignored.