J.A.
Hi M.,
Self-discipline is a great goal! However, at 3 they need lots of help and direction from us. I have not done the best job on this particular issue myself, but have some friends that have given me some great ideas I am trying out. One friend used poker chips. At the beginning of the week each child got so many poker chips for the day/week (whichever increment you'd like to use - daily might be better for a 3 year old as time concepts are not there yet). Each chip was worth 30 minutes of tv or computer time. The child must give you 1 token for 30 minutes of tv/computer time. Once they have used them all for the day they have to wait until the next day to watch/do more. It might be good to use two colors of chips, one for tv, one for computer time so they get the idea of budgeting for each. That way they can't use up all the chips on one or the other and then be frustrated that they did not get to do both. You get to decide how many tokens to start the day with, and can choose to give extra tokens for good behavior or rainy days and sick days. It is a concrete choice the child makes and they have a concrete idea of how many choices they can make and how much time is involved. It worked really well for my friend! Hope it at least gives you an idea to work from.