Toilet Training - Lancaster,PA

Have you tried her in underwear for a while? My son was like that and 2 months shy of his 3rd bday I told him no more diapers and put him in underwear. He still refused to pee in the potty and had accidents everywhere for a week. Every time he peed his pants I told him it goes in the potty and showed him the potty, never getting mad or frustrated. Finally after a week he decided it's more convenient to put it in the potty!

I was to the point of tears with my 3 1/4 year old who was adamant, as well. She was NOT going to do her business in the toilet.

She spent the weekend at my parents. At the end of the weekend, as we were leaving, my Mom said, as natural and neutrally as you please, "Oh, Abigail, let me change your diaper before you leave."

After she was done, Mom helped Abigail to her feet, looked her in the eye, and said (as naturally and neutrally as you please) "That is the VERY LAST diaper I ever change on you. I won't do it again. So, you cannot come back to Mom-Mom's until you are going potty in the big girl potty ALL OF THE TIME. Bye, sweetheart, I love you!"

My daughter decided to show her who was the boss - and was out of diapers permanantly within 36 hours.

My mom never before Sunday afternoon had said one word. We had tried all forms of bribery, punishments, stickers, candy, movies, new clothes, shoes, underwear, potty seats, books, videos, and at one point a trip to New York to visit FAO Schwartz. We were beyond desperate. She knew exactly what she was doing, was fully trained at 19 months (She was going to be ther boss, which meant demanding to go potty every hour), and decided one day that she was over the potty.

My advice: Find someone she loves that is willing to STICK TO THIS and have them explain that she is cut off until diapers are gone.

Good luck, I can't wait to hear the outcome!

I think I read somewhere that the issue should not be forced. My grandson was reluctant too. When he went to daycare he just saw all the other kids using the potty so he gave in. I also used the reward system at home. It gave him something to look forward to when we went to Walmart and he took his pennies a bought something with it. Cool-looking undies worked too. It was frustrating but it took patience on our part. I had plenty of days when the daycare would hand me all of his clothes back to be washed due to the fact that he forgot or didn't feel like it. Lately he has been doing better. From one granny to another I hope this helps.

Drop it completely for a while. Dollars to donuts she'll go over and pee in the potty! LOL

My oldest was the exact same way and was well on her way to turning 4 before she was trained. The trick for us was that she saw my cousin--who just happens to only be 15 months older than what she is--going potty. When my daughter saw this, she thought it was pretty cool and decided that it was time for her to go potty & be a big girl just like her cousin. Perhaps something like this could sway her? Good luck!

Well, I have a boy, so this will not work quite the same way for you, but maybe some of it will apply. My son was 3 1/2, and had finished a year of preschool, where being potty trained was not required. (He was 2 when he started.) He will need to be trained by next September's class. So, I knew we had to do it this summer. But he was absolutely resistant. Screamed every time I tried to sit him on the potty. The first pretty summer day I said, "Want to go out and pee-pee on the grass?" We eventually moved to a "pee-pee cup" and then to the potty. He always tells me when he needs to go and has had very few accidents. Unfortunately, even boys need to sit down to make a "P.U." as we call it, so we still have that milestone to cross! I say, don't worry, work with your child, respect his/her personality, be patient, and try not to lose your patience or your temper. Good luck, N.

Kids can choose to use this as a way to exert their power. Back off...it will only frustrate everyone to try to force the issue now. She'll come around....

Hi B., LOL isn't funny how their own little personalities come out around that age? and how absolutly stubborn they can become about things? My middle one was the same way...going to the potty was an interruption in her day and she just wasn't going to bother! I tried ignoring it for a while (she would go once in a while so I had hope) but then one day it was one too many poopy pull-ups and I got mad...add that to being what felt like 10 months pregnant and "poof" I lost my temper, gave her a quick swat on the behind and told her "tomorrow you are wearing panties and going in the potty...NO MORE PULL-UPS!"
The next day I put her in panties and jeans and we spent the day at the mall. Sure, I went in and out of every bathroom all day...and she didn't go even when she said she had to...and then at the last store she said she had to go again and as we were walking through the store to the bathroom she wet her pants. She walked through half the store in wet jeans (of course I had clothes wipes etc with me for such an event). After I changed her we talked about how ucky and uncomfortable the wet jeans were. We talked about how big girls always used the potty, and how smart and pretty she was and how fast she was becomming a big girl. Then I told her if she went a month with no accidents in panties I would buy her a Star Castle. We bought little pretty stickers for the family calander (one sticker for every accident-free day). It worked! She never had an accident after that! LOL she is 15 now and still has her purple star castle. We did use pull-ups at night until she asked if she could wear panties to bed (which happened about 3 weeks later). Wet pull-ups did count as an accident. Loosing your temper isn't recommended, but maybe just looking her in the eye and telling her that she is going to go potty starting the next day and sticking to it, (she is three and should understand rules etc.) may just be your answer. Best wishes and good luck.

Fine. She wants to be stubborn? Well TWO can play that game! No desert/movie/special treat for every night that you refuse to use the potty for YOU little itty bitty missy! ;)