Dd just turned 19 months old and whenever she has an issue (ex: wants to get out of her highchair) she will cry/whine, but rarely calls for me. She does say "mama" when she sees me or is asked where I am.
Is this normal???
I don't know if it's normal, but it is something you'll want to get her out of. Next time, don't respond to the whine. She whines/cries rather than talks because you respond to the whine and she doesn't have to talk. Make her talk to you.
Simply tell her what you want her to say. Say it while you're doing what she wants.
She whines to get out.
You say, "Do you want out? Say 'Mama, out please.'" Repeat "Mama, out please." as you're taking her out of the chair. Once she's out, say cheerfully, "Okay! You're out now! Yay!"
Repetition will help her to become more verbal. Try to use simple words with her to help her learn what it is she wants to communicate. Soon, instead of whining, she'll be crowing "MAMA! Out please!" You just have to stick with it.
If she's whining because she wants something that you are willing to get, use the repetition again. "Do you want some milk? Say, "Mama, milk please.'" Repeat what you want her to say several times as you give her what she's wanting, even if she doesn't actually say all the words herself. She will eventually figure out that the words get her what she wants.
Don't ever just respond to her whining. Talk to her and help her to know the words she should be using. And when she starts asking, keep guiding her so that she starts to understand how to structure her requests. Don't forget to use please and thank you.
you have to teach them otherwise. Whining, crying, tantrums are default reactions. Teach her the word "help". Then gently remind whiney toddler to "use your words" when they whine for help.
Yes kids whine.
Even Husbands whine! LOL
I think, kids get "tired" of calling us too... hence they "whine" when calling us. It is a 2 way street. We "whine" when telling them things too, in our 'adult' voices... r.e.p.e.a.t.e.d.l.y ALL DAY!
Kids and us, spend all day, calling each other for various reasons.
Sigh.
Anyway, it can be funny.
But not when/if we hear it, all.day.long.
I tell my kids to use their normal voices.
It is part stages/phases, and part just using their voice in a different way, and learning how.
"Practice" with your child... different tones of voices and what it is for.
When she whines you need to put words to what she wants.
Not sure what's normal, but mine still does it sometimes. He would never raise his voice, so I made a game of it for him to call out to me. He loves music, so we practice with sounds and pitch, faint whispers to full-on yells. Sometimes, I even ignore him until he calls out my name.
Very very normal, especially if she's not very verbal yet. Even when they can say more, some still whine alot! Has alot to do with temperament of child, maturity, and how you respond to it. I agree with Christy Lee, just tell her what she needs to say, and even if she doesn't try to repeat it yet, make sure she is paying attention to you because she will catch on eventually. She will get there!
Totally normal, but she is ready to learn the words for what it is she needs and wants..
When she whines, give her the proper words. She wants out of the high chair? You say "down please" as you get her down from the chair.
She raises her hands in the air and whines, you say "pick me up please" you pick her up while saying this.
She wants a drink and is whining, you say "drink please"
She wants to be held, you say, "please hold me"
At some point she will begin repeating what you say...
our daughter used to say
"Hold you me peas"
Or "uppy peas"
We knew what she meant and when she would whine, we would say, "use your words"
Or later, I do not understand whining, use your words"
just keep feeding her the words. "do you want DOWN honey? say, mama please let me down!"
if she is not talking much at all is different than if she does talk, but just chooses to whine instead. i would react as little as possible to the whining and encourage her to use her words.
Whining is normal. Teach her to use her words. Consider using baby signs. "DD, do you want down? Yes? (sign yes)". I would expect a lot of crying and things til she gets more verbal but encourage her in the direction you want.
