I'm afraid to go back but they have not told us we can't (yet). Child is 21 months and scratched up a girl's face! Today he pulled hair, and scratched again. He cannot seem to keep his hands to himself. This is a gym nursery. The only time I can work out makes it necessary for me to have this service. They said he is not mean or angry when doing this. Just a big grin and hands flying everywhere. Obviously he has no clue about personal space or proper social behavior!
They did a time out with him. He did sit in the chair. I was so glad for that, that he actually sat. But when let up he did it again. So, back to the chair. But he did not seem to understand that he CAN'T do certain things. He always smiles a lot when he's being rough, so he's not upset or anything.
They said he played fine with his 3 siblings (a little older than he is; he does not tend to touch them). But any other kids who came by, and it turned crazy. He is totally fine when no other kids are there besides his siblings, but that's hard to come by. I can try going a little later in the morning so it's less crowded. I am horrified to have THAT kid. The one people dread when they see coming in the door!
So, my toddler is acting inappropriate in the gym nursery and I feel like when I'm working out I'm afraid to death of the report I'll get when I return. It's not very fun anymore! He is not like this at home. I have no problems with him at home. He is very mellow and well-behaved physically.
How do I stop this behavior and continue to work out? I am not there when he does these things.
Do you take him on playdates with kids his own size? That's where I'd start, and have it a playdate where you can supervise closely, and direct him to safe play activities to help teach him what's appropriate.
Give him other chances outside the home, like at the park or some other public play place, where you can keep working with him and teaching him how to use (or not use) his hands. At this age the more practice and interaction he gets the better!
Just keep going, lol. He may sit in the chair a lot but you'll be a happier mama if you work out. Don't worry about it. It will all work out. It's not their first terror!
Sounds like he's just getting over excited from seeing his friends. I'd just make sure to let the staff know he may need them to shadow him so he doesn't hurt anyone.
I don't know how to stop it, but I'd just about bet that he's picking on the other kids like his older siblings pick on him. Of course he plays well with his older siblings, THEY make sure of it.
I would watch the way the other kids play with him. Bet that's where he's getting this. You know the old saying, shi# runs downhill! He's at the bottom of the hill at home, but not at the daycare!
Some people are a little timid to reprimand others' kids. That could be the case. The time out chair is fine, but your son needs to be sternly told he is not to do that to others, and to keep his hands to himself. I'm sure it's all innocent and part of space development, but if he doesn't learn the boundaries, space development is ending up being 'self taught' and causing a lot of trouble.
The more he's around other kids, the more he'll be able to socialize. Of course there's no trouble at home. There aren't any "threatening" kids. He is only 2. But when there's smoke, time to prevent a fire. So maybe you should now and then interrupt your workout and go check on him. If you see him doing something naughty, go in and tell him about it. They might just appreciate your help on this. Too many peoples' hands are tied who are in charge of kids. Parents are too quick to tell them they have no business talking in such and such a way to their precious sweetie. It's an evil circle, so if you go in and get in his face with discipline, and let the caretakers know it's okay to reprimand him in a similar manner, maybe that would help.
Hey, how about some mittens or gloves for the little guy. I am sure he doesn't mean to pull and scratch. But why he's learning make sure he and others are safe. Also make sure he nails are snipped short, short short.... if they aren't already. :) Good luck.
Being gentle has to be learned. At 22 mos. he doesn't know how to interact with others. His sibs are used to him and know how to stay out of his way and he's used to them and knows what they'll tolerate.
Or is he scratching other toddlers and babies? It's my guess that's the problem. He has to be taught how to treat little ones. The little ones don't know how to stop him. He needs someone to be with him to show him how to be gentle while using the words, "be gentle."
I'd find ways to be with him while he's with other toddlers and babies. Then show him how to be gentle. Perhaps you could take him to the center and stay with him a few times to model this behavior not only for him but also to the care takers.
he is a normal 21 month old. he doesnt know about proper social behavior. he is excited to see other kids..
hire a sitter at home and leave the child at home.
