Toddler Not Sleeping and Toddler Not Eating

He will probably sleep much better after the tubes!!! In the mean time, trying letting him sleep in a more upright position. With my kids when they have ear problems I lay one ear on my chest and cover the other with my hand and rock them and it usually does the trick.
As for the eating, unless he isn't eating enough to stay healthy, I wouldn't worry about it. When he's hungry he'll eat.
When it comes to the cribs, they probably think they are too big for them now that they are getting older (regardless of size). My 26 month old nephew weighs 21lbs and he sleeps in a full size bed, because he refused to sleep in his crib. I would recommend either toddler beds for them or a big kid bed. That would give them incentive to sleep in their own bed. GOOD LUCK!!

E., I don't have twins but my son is 4 and I had the hardest time trying to get him to sleep at night ever since he was born. I tried everyones advice but nothing seemed to work he just had to grow out of it I guess. That's probly not the answer you were looking for but nothing worked for him and I tired everything. He will still wakeup in the middle of the night most of the time but he goes right back to sleep. Maybe after twin a gets his tubes it will be alot better I don't have exsperience with that but I know parents who do but they never mentioned anything about not sleeping. Sorry I couldn't help.

Hey E.!

As a fellow mom of multiples, I thought I would respond to ya. My twins are 3 1/2 yrs old. :)

I've been Blessed in the sleeping and eating area with mine. Seperation has been the biggest thing I have faced. :)

I can only think that maybe Anthony could be possibly having Night Terrors or Nightmares...and there is a difference. Poor little guy having to have tubes put in his ears, but I'm sure it will definately help.

We co-bed the twins up until Christmas of 2006 and they were 2 1/2 yrs old and then they went into toddler beds...just because my sister bought them cute ones.

As far as William not eating...most pediatricians will tell you that children are smarter than we are...they eat when they are hungry and won't when they aren't. I believe it is so true. Austin (Baby B) is like that. He won't eat but will drink. So I make sure he has drinks that are good for him. He loves Carnation Breakfast drink, which is high in protein, so he will have that instead of food. I can usually get him to eat a peanut butter sandwhich or a breakfast bar. We keep breakfast bars in the house at all times...Ensure makes drinks and bars and they are really good for them. Just hard to find sometimes. I have had some luck finding them at WalMart.

Ashleigh & Austin always slept in their crib, so I don't know how to tell you to transition them into their, if they aren't using it. But you could try slowly and using if for Naptime and work from there...unless you want to jump to toddler beds. The toddler beds are close to the ground and if your twins are anything like mine...they love sleeping together.

Austin is 29 lbs and Ashleigh is 38 lbs, but if we didn't get toddler beds, they may have still been co-bedding, since they weren't bothering each other.

Another idea, while I'm thinking about it is...do you belong to a local Moms of Twins or Multiples group. They are a great source of help. Mom of Twins has a national organization and can be found at http://www.nomotc.org You can search for a group if you don't belong to one.

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Hey E.,

My son is 6 now, but when he was a baby he went through stages of not wanting to eat. The doctors told me "he'll eat when he's hungry." He's find now so just see what your peditrician says. As far as getting the twins to sleep in their crib, try putting something from your bed in their crib, the smell from your bed might help comfort them. Good Luck!

L.

If he is having tubes inserted, he must have ear problems. Maybe the screaming and hard to get to sleep is because his ears are hurting. Be patient till after the surgery and see if there is any change. I always heard that with twins, one feels the others' pain. Maybe that is your eating problem.
I am a firm believer in not pushing the eating. If they aren't hungry you can't force them. But another big belief is VITAMINS. Just make sure they have their vitamins and then I would let them eat at their own pace. All you can do is offer. But they need their vitamins to develop right... their little brains are still developing and you want them to have all the nourishment that the brain can stand.

As far as the transition to the crib, I am assuming you are talking about as opposed to falling asleep in your bed. If you have already gotten them use to sleeping in your bed, that will probably be hard to change without a fuss. They sound little because I have a tiny girl who is only 22 lbs so boys that are 2 at 23 lbs are definitely SMALL. Have you considered redecorating their room with a toddler bed and see how that works? If you don't want to go that way right now, then you may have to put them in their bed and just let them cry for several nights so they know that they HAVE to go to sleep in their bed. If you don't mind taking them up to their beds later, then that is ok too. The screaming at 1 could be a pain from the ears or it could be that they wake up and don't know where they are at. It may help to make them sleep in their own beds so when they wake up they know where they are at... they have all their toys and covers and things that are familiar right there with them. I would rule out the pain first of all. A call to the dr could help solve that.