I have two children with ASD. They were autistic from birth! There are some rare cases when children have been harmed, Krista's situiation sounds heartbreaking, and some children should not be vaccinated. I know a family who has a child who had a true allergic reaction, but same happend with a lot of other things too, so they have a good reason to not vaccinate. There are other rare situations. The rest of us should protect that baby who can't by getting ours vaccinated and contributing to the herd imunity. Mine are, and I line em up for what ever they need. They are the very last children on earth who would do well with measils, mumps, pertussis, or the flu.
Take a tour of an old grave yard, and read the head stones that date back around 100 years. That we have this modern miricle of good medical care and vacines actually makes the vaccine debate possible. There would be no argument against these if nearly half our children were dying form deseases that we sudenly found out we could prevent. 100 to 200 years ago, that was the death rate prior to reaching adulthood. In places where infant and child mortality is high from these illnesses, there is no debate about it. 300 years ago, when the first small pox vaccine came into practice, the very rich lined up in droves and were quarentiened for 6 weeks and willingly subjected themselves to a nearly one in 10 contraction of the desease, and the assoicated death rate for small pox. People who know the horrors of the illnesses, and the frequency of death, did not wonder about infentecimal risk. There is risk in everything you do, and many, many times more risk in mondane activities like riding in a car, than are in the vaccine.
You do get to choose. There are risks on both sides, and some risk to everyone else who cannot choose to avoid you, if you decide to roll the antivaccine dice, but still your choice.
Part of this debate should include a side note about Autism. It is not the end of the world. I have happy children. They don't feel like tradgedies. They are great kids. Would I choose autism, no. Would I choose my kids? Yes.
The last thing I would tell you is this. If you are going to have an autistic child, you alread do. Genetics are the key to autism. You have a one in 110 chance of having a child with autism and a 1 in 99 chance if it is a boy. It has already happened if it is going to happen. I can say with absolute certainty that I would not have either of my autistic children with me today had they been born 200 years ago. They both would have died within weeks of being born. Were there a mirilce, and one survived, they never would have survived life in a home with an open flame. The rise in the numbers of autistic children is as moreto do with the time we live in, and the relative safety of modernity and good health practices as it does any unknown thing. That my children live long enough to be identifed as autistics is significant. That they will go on to have relationships and families should alert you to why their numbers continue to grow.
You will love this baby, no matter what. Don't be afraid of this one thing, or sacrifice something that can protect your baby for an unknown that may already be anyway. And if it is...it is not so bad as you think.
M.