Time off Work After a Miscarriage

i only took a couple of days off. i found that getting back to a normal routine was what i most needed.
everyone's different, though.
i'm so sorry, BK. {{{{{{{{}}}}}}}}}}
khairete
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I miscarried at 9 weeks too, but didn't know that I had miscarried until week 11. I got a D&C at week 12 and took one week (5 days) off. I was an attorney at a non-profit at the time.

I had an ectopic that we originally thought was a miscarriage. I only missed the day of my D&C and a half day for my post op. I'm a teacher and found that jumping back in for me was easier than taking the time off and dwelling. In hindsight I might have taken an extra day after the D&C because the methotrexate that they gave me made me so tired. Everyone is different, so you have to do what works best for you.

I have never been through this but I would imagine the first thing to figure out is how much time are you allowed. I only say this because I used to do payroll and I was amazed how many people assumed something was covered as paid leave, never asked, then were shocked when they weren't paid or had to take it from vacation.

I mean you have already been through hell, not something you want to return to.

The other thing is find out how much your doctor will sign off on. A lot of employers ask for a doctor's note to determine leave time.

I personally would only take time off if I could not function at work due to pain/discomfort.

I am sorry for your loss.

I miscarried at 22 weeks as well as 12 and 14....when I lost our baby at 22 weeks? I lost her on a Thursday. D&C on Friday and was off Monday and Tuesday - so 3 days not including the weekend.

If you are having a D&C - the doctor will tell you how much time to take off.

Good luck. One step at a time. Hugs to you.

I think your employer will tell you how long you get to take off for this. Other choices for how long you get to take off is the doc. He should say whether you can go back to work or not.

After mine I went back to work the next day. It was an emotional time but I was not physically unable to work childcare. In your position I imagine your employers would let you have at least a couple of days.

My sister lost a baby a 8 1/2 months and then twins around 5 months. She was finally able to carry her last pregnancy to term and had a wonderful daughter.

I had at least 4 miscarriages. I know it's painful but more employers don't really care what you're feeling inside as long as you are physically able to do your work. They are usually an uncaring entity.

I was told that since I did not have job security that I could take all the time I needed but my job wouldn't be there. Needless to say I went back two days after I found out I was miscarrying at about 12 weeks. Mine happened naturally and I would NEVER EVER EVER recommend trying to be at a job where you're expected to be helping others with their issues when you are in a crisis of your own. I only say that because whilst I did, I ended up quitting my job w/o notice a week later due to apathy I experienced at the workplace. It also did not make things easy to have to be around new moms and children.

In my opinion take all the time you are allotted and don't feel guilty about having to take bereavement as well.

So sorry to hear this news. I had a miscarriage in late November. I do not work, but can say I had to resume my normal activities the very next day. My kids knew nothing of the pregnancy so I had to bury my feelings and carry on. It wasn't the healthiest, and since I didn't deal with it at the time, I've had a very hard summer as the baby was supposed to be due at the end of June. I've been very emotional and have gained six pounds from eating my feelings.

I hope that you can take a week off if you're able to. Take care of yourself!

The day of and the day after (corporate office job, nothing physical).

I'm so sorry.
I've been there. Three times.

O. was very, very early on & I didn't miss any time.
The other two were D&Cs and I believe my doc recommended 2-3 days of taking it easy. Probably a weekend and O. day.
Your doc will let you know.

I am sorry for your loss and i think everyone deals with these things differently.

I have had 3 miscarriages and 1 ectopic (methotrexate, not surgery) at 6, 12, 10 and 10 weeks, respectively.

For me.... The miscarriage at 6 weeks, I took off at 3 instead of leaving at 5:30 and I went to urgent care because I was bleeding. Once I had an ultrasound and determined I was miscarrying I just went back to work the next day and had, essentially, a REALLY heavy period over the next couple weeks.

For the miscarriages at 12 and 10 weeks, detachment was quite painful. I missed a couple 1/2 days due to Dr appts, but no real "time off".

For the ectopic, I missed 3 days... One when I started having pain and the two days following the shot. I didn't start bleeding for about another week, and then I didn't take any off when I did start to bleed.

You have to determine how you are feeling physically and emotionally. Sometimes getting back to your routine is helpful. I worked in retail at the time, which is physically demanding, but not really mentally stressful.

Good luck.

I am so sorry for your loss.
I had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. I wasn't working so I didn't have to worry about that. I miscarried naturally and didn't need a D&C or any other intervention. I took it easy for a couple days while the worst of it passed, canceling going to a 4th of July party. But I was up and running after everything passed in those couple days. Emotionally, I was upset but, in the end, there was nothing I could do and life had to go on. I had 2 other kids and we had things to do. Sitting around sulking wasn't going to do me any good. But that's how I deal with things. One good all out cry and move on.
It really depends on how you feel physically. Take what time you need. But there is no way to tell how much time you will need.

I am sorry for your loss.

My miscarriages were around 6 weeks and didn't seem like much more than a later period. I was at work on a Thursday for one. I did go into work the following day, but I went in later than usual ( I am a teacher but, luckily, it was a teacher work day).

For my other I was home for the summer, and just took it easy for a few days. I think you just need to see how you feel.

I've been working from home for so long I didn't have to worry about that when I had my miscarriage. It was at about 10 weeks and natural (no D&C).

In my case I'd say I was physically pretty much back to normanl within a couple of days. As for emotional I was thankful to have a 3 year old, home and work to jump back into. Like any loss focusing on other things sometimes helps and reminds us of what we have instead of what we lost.

Sorry you're going through this and hope your heart and body heal quickly.

I'm so sorry. I think you need to take the time you need - that can be medical, that can be emotional. I would suggest that you tell your job you need at least a week after the medical intervention, unless you fully miscarry sooner. And if you want to go back sooner, that's up to you. You can always go back sooner if "getting back to normal" would be good for you - recognizing that "normal" isn't normal. You're in a stressful situation which may make it harder to relate to and support others - so take the time you need. But being in social work may make your supervisor more compassionate.

There's no rule about how long this takes. Your body and your emotions will tell you.

Hi...I'm sorry for your loss. I did have a miscarriage too at 6 weeks and took no time off. I bled heavily for almost 3 weeks. If you feel you need time, I would talk to your employer to determine how much time would be permitted.

No experience, just want to say, I am so sorry for your loss. May you find comfort and peace.

If you get a Doctor's medical note, then per him/her, you can take off for the amount of time you need.
I am sure, OB/GYNs deal with this a lot.

I had a miscarriage once at 6 weeks.
Had a D&C.
Physically, I was okay.
But its the psychological aspect.
But after the D&C, my Doc said I need to go home, and rest.

Just the day of my D&C.
There is no rest for the weary...

I miscarried at 11 weeks and was given a week off work.

I was active duty military for most of my miscarriages... Meaning 0 time off. Even for live births one worked until one went into labor, then had 3 days off before returning to work (unless your leave was approved, and it was too busy that year so pretty much no ones leave was approved).

For me... That was something I was ticked off about (I'd carried until over 6mo... I had serious physical stuff going on) in the BEGINNING... But really grateful for later. Because hard work kept me occupied instead of moping.

A week. You are healing mind and body. How many sick days left do you have? If you lose them in December then, use all but 2. You may need them later. I'm not one for scrimping on using sick days. They are yours and this is an illness--mental and physically and emotionally.

I'm really sorry for your loss. I miscarried at 12 weeks and had a D&C. My OB recommended 2-3 days off, and although I was feeling better physically (mostly), I took a week off work.