Three Years and Still Waiting for Our Blessed Child

Have you considered international adoption? There are so many wonderful children around the world who desperately need homes. Both of my children were adopted in 2001 from Russia. I would be happy to help you get started if you would consider going that route. It sounds as if you're chasing a non-certain path toward adoption, whereas with internationl adoption, you will definitely get a child.

Hi K.,

I just wanted to give you my support during your wait. We adopted our now 3-year old at birth. Our daughter was born 9 months (almost to the day) from the time we signed on with the agency and we took her home from the hospital. I don't tell you this as a discouragement, nine months is much shorter than three years, but as another sign that things do happen as God plans them.

Maybe you could look into another agency. Our agency was a small, Christian based agency who didn't have a lot of waiting families. They don't place as many children as the Mega- agencies do but you may get a quicker response because there are fewer families to chose from.

Just a thought of course. And it might make you feel better knowing your doing something about it rather than just waiting for that call.

No matter what you do, take it one day at a time. Get through today by living in the here and now rather than in tomorrow. Enjoy your little boy. Enjoy your spouse. Treat each moment as if there won't be another one. Soon, the call will come. When it does, by living for today you won't look back and see the months and years you spent yearning for it, but the wonderful memories you have as a family of three.

D.

Hi K.,
I totally sympathize with you. Since your first adoption took 16 months, the pain of waiting 3 years now must be very difficult. Our adoption took 18 months and that felt like an eternity. So I can imagine how you must be feeling. You have much more patience than me. I was growing very antsy and impatient when we waited to bring our kids home, so I'm very impressed with your patience and persistence after 3 years.

We also went to Russia for our adoption like the other person that posted, but going to Russia isn't easy either because there have been lots of glitches in the Russian adoption process too, with people waiting many months. I thought our process was long, but there are many other people who have been waiting much longer than us to get their referrals from Russia. There have been many reaccredidation problems for Russian adoptions too. Just recently the agency I used was reaccredited-thank God!!

Let me know if you have any questions I can help you with.
I really sympathize with what you're going through.

A.

I understand what you are going through. With our first child it took forever. We did not make copy over 100 profiles though. I know that both of our agencies tried to get profiles back from birthmoms who didn't chose us and I know that is not the real issue, but those copies do get expensive especially if it is a little book. You may want to ask why girls are choosing other families. With our 2nd agency we received a quarterly report showing how many time birthmothers came in and whether or not our profile was shown, why it wasn't shown and if not chosen we were given the reason.

I belonged to a support group while waiting for our first. It did help a great deal. I guess you also just need to remember that it is not our timeframe, but God's. He has the right baby and birthfamily chosen for you, but apparently it is not at this time. I am not sure where you live, but if you live in the Frisco area Stonebriar Church had a support group for those going through infertility or adoption. It is called In His Time. I cannot tell you how great that group was for me. And, when we finally were matched with our daughter and her birthfamily I completely understood why the wait was so long. We changed agencies for our second adoption and used one in Wichita Falls. We waited about a year and a half from orientation to placement.

If you want to "talk" more you can email me at ____@____.com

Just keep the faith. God has an awesome plan for your family. And, you are going to be very busy with your little guy starting kindergarten today.

I wish you the best!
B.

K.,
My husband and I have two adopted boys that we got as infants through Gladney's ABC program. They were domestic adoptions and we was told that it could be a year to a year and a half. We went in it thinking it could go the long stretch. So we prepared ourselves to wait both times. Our fist took 3 months and our second took 5 months! Both times we was very big surprised!
Three years in a very long time to wait and you are valid for feeling the way you do! Sometimes we just have to trust God and his timing. Easier said than done. :)
Just remember the next time you start to wonder if and when it will ever happen look at your little boy and remember adoption does happen!
I'll say a prayer for you to have the strength to wait the wait needed for God to provide you with the child he has chosen for your family.
Hang in there,
C.

i'd like to tell you congrats on adopting! i think that is so great! hang in there... the right one that needs you as a mommy just hasn't come around yet!

Hi K.,

My husband and I have a healthy and perfect 3 year old of our own and are looking to adopt a child a little order 5 or 6. We have no idea where to start and any advice would be great!

Thanks - C.

God, will send your child when the time is right! Good luck!
Enjoy life!

My friend went through CPS and it went fairly quickly. I know some agencies can be shadier than others. My parents adopted my brother from Korea when I was little and had a fairly easy time.

I know that adopting a caucasion newborn can take a very long time, since they are in high demand, compared to toddlers, ethnic babies and older children.