My three year old daughter started peeing in her bed every night since my new born son came home. I have tried not giving her liqiuds two hours before bed, making sure she pees before bed, waking her up and putting her on toilet, but nothing has helped and it is three months now that she has been having these accidents. Does anyone have a tactic that maybe worked for them if so it would be a great help.
Kindly without anger put her in a diaper. Explain she can wear panties when her diaper is dry three nights in a row.
The best advice I received re: new baby home is that when both kids are crying, tend to the older one first - the older one is having to be patient and wait a lot - she needs to know that she matters and is still cared for. She needs special attention - just keep that special, sweet nice time separated from the peeing.
Before I read your question, once I saw 'regression' I thought "I wonder if there's a newborn".
Older siblings often regress when a new baby comes. Even if she loves her more than anything in the world. It's a big change - the routine is changed - and lots of other things.
You may try eliminating dairy for about a week and see if that helps. Otherwise, do some "play therapy" with her and have some stories with her dolls about new babies and see if she can play through some of her feelings. Think of this as her imagination working through what to do, so don't take any anger or mean actions seriously but rather let whatever she does get out and thoroughly hashed out. Try some different scenarios and see if you can find a starting point for some fear, anger, resentment, or whatever. Often once its played out, it goes away.
A great book is "Siblings without Rivalries". Which helps with accepting a new family member as well as their interactions.
Also - tell her lots of stories about when she was a baby and all the times you loved her and thought she was so cute. Let her know she had her baby time and baby attention as well as this new little one.
I have a 3 year old step daughter who is regressing during the day (even if she had just went in the potty she would pee her pants). We told her that she can't be in the "big girl's club" if she keeps peeing her pants. So far it's working! She wants to be in the big girl's club so bad! We tried EVERYTHING and this is the only thing that has worked so far...hopefully it keeps working!
I'd just put her in a diaper or nighttime pull up. Neither of you need the stress with a new baby. My 4.5 year old son is still in pull ups at night and dry mornings are few and far between even though he has been daytime trained for quite a while. My kids are just shy of 3 years apart. I couldn't get my older one trained before the baby (we tried but he wasn't ready) so we left it alone until the baby was close to a year old.
my son did this for a time. after the things you have already tried, i decided to just reduce my own frustration about it and wait for him to improve on his own. i reduced my frustration by putting a plastic mattress cover on his bed and limiting the amount of blankets, stuffed animals, and pillows he could have in his bed. i made sure the washing machine was empty in the morning so that i could throw his bedding and clothing in immediately. every time he peed in his bed i reminded him that he needs to get up out of bed to pee. he said he was sleeping too deeply and didn't realize he needed to go. i told him that if he has dreams about water or toilets that he needs to try to wake himself up and go straight to the bathroom. i made sure the bathroom door was open at night and nightlights light the path. eventually he got the hang of it. good luck!
Isn't 3 too young to expect her to stay dry throughout the night? Some kids aren't even fully toilet-trained by 3. Can you put a night-time diaper on her? Also, some kids are bed-wetters at a much older age.
