Three Boys in the Mall

Updated on August 03, 2008
T.F. asks from Provo, UT
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Ok so I am a mother of 3 boys ages 5,3, and 1. I am happily married and until today I have wanted to have 6 kids. So we were school shopping for my oldest who is getting ready to go to kindergarten and my kids were awful. They were running around the store and crying when they saw something that they wanted and couldn't have. My middle child is quit headstrong and he was hurting the baby in the stroller and screaming for some new shes. It was so BAD!!! My husband was with us and swore that we were done having children. It was embarassing to me cause I know he thought I must let them do this all the time. Truth is I am not a big shopper and rarely go to the mall. So when we go shopping they are in a grocery cart and are not that bad. However I have noticed that since my second is growing up things are getting worse. I try to keep them at bay make them hold the cart or threaten (which I know is dumb) I do carry through on those threats. Anyway I want to nip this in the bud before it gets really crazy with three. Does anyone have any good ideas.
I want you to know that my kids don't get what they want all the time. We live on hand me downs, and I am not one to give into their vain desires to easily. So don't think they are screaming because it works to get what they want. We came home with nothing they scrame for. Anyway great tips would be much appreciated.
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C.E.

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they didn't scream and fight because you spoil them or let them run amok. they did it because of their age and temperament. we all have bad days, even kids. sometimes my 4 yr old (the one who has always thrown the biggest fits) will have a horrible day of crying and yelling over everything that doesn't go his way and hit his brother at every chance. sometimes it's because he's tired or hungry. sometimes it's just been too long since he got to wrestle dad or climb something or run. sometimes it's because of something that happened the day before that he's still working through the emotions of. sometimes i never find out what it is and i end the day crying because of everyone losing their temper. and then the next day is better. don't blame yourself for this. and don't let your husband blame you for it either. if it was all your doing, you would have been able to stop it as well. it sounds to me like you were trying to solve the problem, not ignore it, so you were doing the right things. it's hard for kids to shop for someone else and not get something for themselves, but it is part of life and a lesson in selflessness that everyone needs to learn. next time, you could try one parent taking the one boy shopping while the other two are home or shopping in a different store or different section of the store. you can meet back up later to get eachothers' opinions before making a purchase. remember to check your watches often to see if their crankiness could be from hunger, sleepiness, etc. sometimes we lose track of time while shopping. bring some of the kids' own money so they can choose something to buy for themselves. i would not make their purchase dependent on their good behavior, just let them know they have 25 cents (or whatever) to buy what they want when they get to the store. you guide them in their purchase, but they still get a choice. for instance, we don't let our kids have big gum balls, but we point out to them the machines of candies we think are appropriate for their age. good luck! next time they may behave completely different.

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M.P.

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I suggest taking the boys shopping individually. I know it's more time and work, but each boy gets you all to himself for a couple hours and he's less likely to look at all the stuff the other boys are getting and get jealous. If the child has a tantrum during your personal shopping experience with you, tell him that you're all done and take him home.

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J.L.

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I am a mom with the same age kids, boy 5, girl 3, and baby almost 1. I think it's just an age thing and it will get better. Plus it's summertime and they're bored. I think motivation and new activities or creative projects might be the thing that will get you through! Sometimes thinking of a positive approach while taking a little more energy at first, can be more effective than the threats and discipline. When all that fails, I just pray.

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C.W.

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As a time-taught Grandma here is what I would do: Leave 2 of the kids home with their Dad. Take one(start with the oldest) to the mall. Give hime the guidelines of good behavior while still in the car. That way, the other kids won't distract him and he will know what is expected. While shopping, continue to teach him how to behave and how to shop. Perhaps reward him with an ice cream cone or something when you are done.
Assure the other kids that they will each have a turn. You will be able to handle one on one and you can give the child your undivided attention. Kudos to you for caring and tryng to teach your children how to behave in a store. I see too many Moms who let their kids run rampant.

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