Wow D., when I read this, I felt like you described ME perfectly. I felt the exact same way. (Notice I said felt, I've picked up a few tricks.) I have six month old twins, so everything is double for me. They were born 12 weeks early, and so they spent three months in the hospital. I have had them both home since December 15, and while I'm loving it, it is just so hard sometimes to get through the day. And I don't have a husband, it's just me. I moved in with my mom so that she could help, but she's gone from the house 16 hours a day, so when she comes home, it's time for dinner, then maybe a half hour with the kids, and then bed-time. So I don't REALLY have help. I mean, she does what she can, but from the time we wake up until around 7:30 at night, it's just me and the babies. I quit my job when they came home, and I totaled my van two weeks after they came home, so I have been literally at STAY AT HOME mom. It's 7 miles to the closest bus stop from where I live, and 5 miles to the closest store. So if I run out of something that I need, I have to call my mom and leave her a message to get it when she comes home. And since I moved in with my mom, I don't know my neighbors, so I don't have any help there. Most days, I felt like I cried ALL THE TIME. And you know what, that's okay! If you feel like crying, cry. It will help with some of the stress. Alot of the problem is your hormones, since you are breastfeeding. That gets easier. As for the dishes, I know it sounds tacky, but invest in paper plates, disposable cups and plastic silverware. That way, you can just throw them away instead of having to clean. The only dishes you will have to do are pots and pans and even those can go in one load. Laundry also, take one day and catch up on all of it, that way, all you have is the stuff that you wear that day. I do two loads of laundry a day. One for my clothes, and one for the babies (because I use Dreft for them, and regular soap for me). Put the water on small load, and just do that each day. That way, you don't feel overwheled by six or seven loads on the weekends. The same thing works for the house cleaning. Take one day and get everything done, that way you will only have to spend about ten minutes a day of up-keep (which can be done while you are waiting for the laundry to spin and the dishes to rinse). Tell your husband that you will pick up your stuff and the baby's, if he will make sure to keep his stuff clean. Have him put away his shoes, laundry in the basket, foodstuff in the garbage or dishwasher. Small little things like that can help you out so much. Wow, this is a novel already, and I haven't even gotten to help with the baby stuff. The best thing for your sanity will be to get yourself and your little girl on a schedule. It will be hard at first, but stick to it, and just knowing that you have an hour until you have to do something helps so much. Tell yourself that at 8am, 10am, and noon, you will feed the baby or pump. Diaper her right before you feed her, and then you will know that each thing is getting done. Also, then you're not feeling like you're spending your whole day doing either thing. Another great investment for your sanity is a swing, and a Boppy pillow. That way, you can put her in the swing and take a shower, or do whatever you need to do. A Boppy is nice because you can sit your baby up and prop a bottle on a blanket. That's what I do since I have two babies, and it has been so wonderful not to have to worry about holding them while they eat. That also gives you ten to twenty minutes for other things. Man, I have so many other things to say, but this is really too long already. If you would like more help, then feel free to write to me at ____@____.com and ask me some things. I will leave you with one more closing thought. The absolute BEST piece of advice that I have learned throughout all of this, came from my mom. She said "Let the baby cry." I know, it's hard to sit there and listen to your precious little darling screaming her head off, but you know what, it has been such a life saver for me to know that it's okay to just set the kids in their playpen, and so something for myself. Whether it is taking a shower, catching up on e-mails and MamaSource, or just watching TV. For instance, right now my kids are in their swings in front of the TV bawling. It doesn't make me a bad mom, it just means that I need my time to myself. And don't worry about the neighbors. They know that you have a new little one, and you know what, she's a baby, babies cry, it's what they do (and it's good for lung development). If they have kids of their own, they'll understand, and if they don't have kids of their own, well then they will find out some day. Okay, now I'm seriously done. But please write to me if you need anything else.