The Results Are in...follow-up to D&C at 12 Weeks

Updated on June 15, 2011
R.L. asks from Kirkland, WA
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I just got back from a follow-up appointment after my D&C 2 weeks ago. I miscarried at 12 weeks, and my OB sent in tissue for testing. I was told today that I had a partial molar pregnancy, and I am not allowed to get pregnant for at least 6 months to a year. On top of that, I have to have blood work done every 2 weeks to monitor my hcg level, to make sure it's going down. If it gets higher, I have to go see an oncologist due to the risk of cancer.

I am so overwhelmed right now. Not only did I lose my baby that we wanted so badly, we can't try again for a long time. And I have to keep going back every 2 weeks to the same place I was told my baby had no heartbeat. I am numb. I feel like nothing has gone right. I gave blood today and will get the results tomorrow, but right now, I fear the worst.

Does anyone have any experience with this? Or know someone who has?

Please say a little prayer for me and my husband.

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N.B.

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I experienced EXACTLY this..17 years ago or so. I actually got pregnant on the pill..so we were not trying to get pregnant, but it was all fine in that dept. We had been married a while, but were still Apartment living..., house searching at the time, etc.

I had brown spotting, called the doc..(I was young..early 20's..knew nothing), they said come in ASAP. I was also VERY sick. Hyper-emesis. And had been on home IV's about a week or 2. I had an US, no heartbeat, etc. I had a D & C the next day. Testing showed the same as you..Partial Molar. I had to go in every week (not E/O) for the blood tests..for about 3 mos total..till my level went to zero again. I don't remember being told the "don't get preg for X amount of time"...maybe tho?

I was pretty wrecked, even tho it was not a planned pregnancy.

I had 2 other losses and experiences I won't go into here..feel free to message me if you like..but in the end..a year later I was pregnant, had a tough time..but carried it out and have a wonderful, talented daughter who is almost 17 and attends an Arts Highschool and hopes to go to college and major in Illustration!

My thoughts go to you!

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A.L.

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I'm so sorry. I've had multiple miscarriages so I know the heartache you are experiencing. I did not have a molar pregnancy but I did a lot of research on miscarriage and did read that you have to wait a long time after a molar pregnancy to try again. Please, please, please make sure you wait as long as the doctor says. You need to make sure you take care of your body first and foremost.

For me, the waiting time was very difficult. My tips for handling it would be to take care of yourself first and foremost. Do what makes you happy, not what makes others happy. If you're having a bad day and don't feel like talking to other people, that is ok. Rely on your husband, family and friends to get you through. You'll make it. It isn't easy, but you'll make it. And, when you finally have your baby, you will look back at the time and realize it was all worth it to have that precious gift.

I'll keep you in my prayers.

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R.S.

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I had a girlfriend go through this..for her it was even more challenging as they kept misdiagnosing her..she was military and saw a different doctor each time. Finally, they figured it out and then to be told she had to wait a full year to try again was just mind blowing to her. I can tell you now she has two beautiful children who keep her hopping and never give her one minutes peace. Oh, and a deployed husband..so she is really busy being mom and dad to two.

I myself have had six miscarriages..five before my son was born and one between him and his sister. One of my d&c results showed a trisomy incompatible with life..the first five were all actually from a defect I had in my uterus....but that one would not have made it no matter what.

It is a dark and scary time..just the sadness alone can be overwhelming.

I almost offered to pay to redecorate the ultrasound room in my OB's office I got so much bad news in that room I hated every part of it..the picture on the wall drove me insane.

I am sending you a hug and I just prayed for peace to be with you.

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H.F.

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I am so sorry to hear about your traumatic ordeal. So many of the other experiences of the moms who have responded to you are also heartbreaking but I am happy to hear so many eventually had joyful outcomes. I am praying for you and your husband.

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C.O.

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I'm sorry you are going through this...

I didn't have a molar pregnancy - however, I've lost 3 babies....one at 12 weeks, one at 14 weeks and the other at 20 weeks.

Listen to the Doctor about this..don't mess around with getting pregnant until they tell you to....from what I understand a molar pregnancy is hard - because it's not a real pregnancy - the egg implants and doesn't gestate...

Six months to a year sounds like a long time - but it will go by fast..please know you are not alone in this and that you everything will be fine..I know it's soo easy to say - but I've been there..you will get through this.

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B.P.

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So, so sorry to hear this. Losing a pregnancy is hard enough, but with everything else, it must be heartbreaking. I will pray for you and your husband.

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Z.B.

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Just wanted to let you know, that I will say a prayer for you and your husband.

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A.P.

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I trust your faith is strong and will bring you through this. The Lord knows best and you have to believe that the loss was best for you. Things will improve and you will get through it. My son and his wife lost their first baby at about the same time as you. It was rough, but with the help of caring family, friends and their faith they made it, and are now the parents of the sweetest little girl. Hug each other everyday and pray always for strength.
Peace, Em.

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A.L.

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Praying for you and your family. I am so sorry for your loss. I have experienced miscarriage as well, and it is so hard. Let yourself grieve. Try to have faith, and stay optimistic. You sound like you're in good hands with your physician who wants to be proactive. Thinking of you.

M.3.

answers from Reading on

I've had a D & C done but did not have to deal with the molar pregnancy. Sending lots of hugs, love, prayers and support your way!

M.L.

answers from Chicago on

Oh I am so sorry for your situation. I have had a miscarriage and a D&C but the rest of your situation I am not familiar with. I really dont' know what to say however I can say I will say a prayer for you tonight and ask that you can have the strength to make it through this rough time.

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C.W.

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Oh goodness. Hugs and prayers for you.

M.P.

answers from Sacramento on

I am so sorry - I will be praying for you.

E.S.

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((((Hugs)))) and prayers for you and DH.

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C.W.

answers from Washington DC on

I am so sorry you are going through this. I haven't experienced a molar pregnancy but a friend of mine's daughter had one and went on to have three healthy pregnancies afterward. Can u get your blood drawn at a lab to lessen the trauma? My thoughts are with you.

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K.P.

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I am so, so, so, sorry for your loss. I cant even imagine how hard that must be. I hope that you can find some peace. I hope that your test results come out okay and that you get well too.

Be strong, and depend on your husband and family for support. This too shall pass. Hugs and love to you during this hard time.

Best wishes.

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