TF Plano/Allen...thinking Of You

TF is a wonderfully strong woman. Her grace is carrying her through this.
I will share this post with her. Thank you.

OMG I'm so glad that I logged on today. I haven't been on much lately due to my hectic life and am so sad to read this. I too feel like I know TF and her daughter and am so saddened to hear this. Thanks for making this a "question" 4 so that we could all know hat happened.

I'm glad you posted this bc I saw it on that question too. :(
I sent her a msg too bc I didn't know what else to say or do.
I think we all feel like we know her!
I've been thinking of them both also.

Wow... Just Wow. I am so appreciative for all of your prayers, support and advice. I can't thank you enough. I do feel as though I know so many of you personally.

I just got home from visitation. It was exhausting but I am so thankful to have so many supportive friends and family, especially online friends like you.

I'm so proud of my husband. Devastated that he is gone too soon. Determined to continue our company.

No one could ever have prepared me for this shock. My husband collapsed at home on Saturday. I called 911 and administered CPR until medics came, worked on him at my home and took him to the hospital. As of now I don't know where he actually died and the exact cause. They believe heart attack. I pray he did not suffer and that he was not afraid. I can't get the images out if my head. This happened in my master bath/ bedroom.

Services are tomorrow. Afterwards, everyone goes home. Erin and I already dread being alone.

Good news... So far I have managed 2 shipments and have good indication that customers and vendirs will work with me. The busy part of our company will keep me on my toes.

Now if I could sleep and eat but I know it will take time.

I truly appreciate this post and responses. You all know how to make someone feel supported and loved. Thank you all!!
TF

what can we do? We can say prayers for her and her daughter. This was a total shock to them. I had been chatting with her that morning! I wish I lived closer.

TF is a brilliant W.. Strength that is inspiring. I'm not sure how I would handle the death of my husband! I know that she would be my inspiration on dealing with everything!!

TF - you are NOT alone!!!

Yes, her posts always sound like she and her husband have had a wonderful marriage and partnership. I'm sure they were prepared (for almost anything) from a logistical standpoint, but no one is ever prepared for the emotional loss, no matter how "together" the rest of your life is.

I'm so sorry, TF!
My deepest condolences to you and your daughter. Please know that this community is here for you. Not much we can do via the web, but I will pray for your comfort and peace.

Oh my, this is a shock! I am besides myself. You are one of the people I look forward to reading responses from.

In this time, please know that I am with you in spirit and heart. Please let me know if there is anything that you need.

Much love and heartfelt cyber hugs to you and your daughter.

the other S.

PS I am not that far away to get to you in about 6 hours or so.

ETA: Never take anything for granted. Live each day to the fullest and enjoy the little things like the smell of the roses along the way. Peace and love to you all.

Thank you for posting this. I saw TF's response and immediately private messaged her. I'll leave it to her to share or not share what she wishes, but I think it would be okay with her if I shared one comment she made to me: "You don't get over this. You get through this." She and her daughter are very close. Remember also that TF has been running a business with her husband, so she has the added burden of notifying business contacts. What difficult calls and emails those must be - a burden most of us don't face. Our hearts are with her.

TF and her daughter have been in my thoughts and prayers since I found out. My heart is so broken for them.

She is an inspiration in dealing with this in the way she is, I just can't even imagine what she is going through.

I am so sorry. I did see the question but not TF's response.
I went through the same thing, it will be 29 years on Nov 14. It does get easier with time but I still miss him. The date of his passing will slip by me unnoticed but Thanksgiving and Christmas are still difficult. His b-day was Cinco de Mayo, so it impossible to not think of him on that day. So many people want to celebrate, I just want to go somewhere quiet and remember.
As far as advice for TF and family:
My best advice is to keep busy. Don't take off a lot of time from work or school. allow yourself to be social and keep on keeping on. The sadness will be much easier to bear if you are around happy people who are trying to help.

Oh my word, thank you for posting this as I usually don't read responses. This post brought tears to my eyes, even though I don't know TF personally, I feel like I do with our many years on here.

TF, I'm so sorry for your loss. It seems that you and your husband had a wonderful life you shared together. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy, to you and your daughter, for your loss. Cyber hugs

TF, so very sorry about your husband. From everything you have written, you two had a really neat relationship! Your incredible strength of character shows through in your thoughtful responses. For now, please allow yourself to let go and be sad and let those around you be your strength. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

It's refreshing to see so many regulars are still hanging out despite the recent craziness on the site. A strong group of women here, and very uplifting to see so much support.

My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter, TF; I can't imagine your pain right now. Over the years I've enjoyed reading your answers. Sending you healing thoughts and strength.

What?
OMG how awful.
Thank you for posting this. I also did not read the other question.
Sending her cyber hugs 1,000 fold... And just a warm blanket of strength, support and thoughts to surround herself with as she goes through this process.

Please reach out if there is anything you need TF.

ETA: so glad to hear from you TF and that you (and your daughter) are doing OK despite the circumstances. Cannot imagine witnessing what you had to, but how remarkable that you had the strength and thoughts to snap out of shock and take action. You are truly a remarkable woman. You are one strong woman, but when that strength begins to falter, read these pages and know we are with you.

Just saw this after being away for the weekend.

TF,-You're a strong and very capable woman and I'm sure you will approach this tragedy like you approach everything else, with grace, courage and a whole lot of common sense.

I don't know you personally but I do know that when the chips are down you are just the type of person I'd want in my corner. Your daughter is so lucky to have you, hang in there and take good care of each other. I am so deeply sorry for your loss.

Thank you for positing this, I didn't read the other question.

Another heart breaking for you TF. Sending lots of positive vibes and hugs your way.

I, too, appreciate TF's valuable contributions to this site, and I'm so sorry for her loss.

I saw this on Saturday on a mutual friends FB page. It happened to be our anniversary on Saturday. It really hit me about how quickly life can change. We need to let a lot of things we "think" are important go and focus on our family and relationships and make that a priority...always. I was so shocked to see that post and immediately put her and her daughter on my prayer list.

TF - I have always admired you through your writings and advice. I felt a kindred spirit with you because my husband and I are business owners and it takes "special" people to be able to do that and not only survive but excel at it. I can't image what you are going though but will continue to pray for you and your daughter. xox

I agree. My heart broke reading her response last night. TF, I wish there were words that could ease the pain of your loss. I am so very, very sorry.

TF, I am so sorry for your loss.

I don't know that there is anything we can do. How awful.

Thank you for posting this. I wasn't much interested in that question so I would have never known.

TF,
You know how my heart aches for you and erin at this most difficult time.
I am sending healing thoughts and prayers for you both.
I know you will do what you ALWAYS have done through the many years I have known you - You will carry on with grace and dignity.
(((cyber hugs))) my friend.
I am 'here' always!

Wow. TF I am so sorry for your loss!!! I also feel like I "know" you, and am sending you and your daughter big, virtual hugs.

i saw that and my heart broke. She seems so young to have lost her husband!

I don't know what I could do for her. I would give her a hug if I could.

TF so sorry to hear of your husband's sudden passing - you've been a great help to so many on this site, hope you and your daughter find comfort at this time.

Oh wow! No idea--been off of here for a week or two.
Sending hugs, T.F. to you & your daughter.
You're a smart, tough, capable woman.
Take care of yourself.

TF and her daughter haven't left my thoughts since I first learned on Saturday. She's got an amazing strength that is carrying her through this difficult time. I can not imagine the heartbreak she is feeling right now.

TF, if you are reading this.... I'm just so sorry. My thoughts are with you.

Oh my goodness….I am just seeing this now. I feel heartsick for TF and her daughter.

I think the only thing we can do is reach out to her in support. How awful for them. What a horrible, horrible loss.

I'm so sorry. I have admired how your posts always seem to portray the closeness of your family of three. I have pictured you and hubby as a loving couple that are always so proud of your college age daughter. It's fortunate that you and your daughter are so close and can be there to hold each other up at this very difficult time. My thoughts and prayers are with you during this time of grief and the rocky road ahead. Hugs to you.

I know what you mean about wanting to jump through the computer. If we knew each other irl I'd drop over with dinner. So very sad.

TF, my condolences on the passing of your husband.
We're all thinking of you.

TF - I just wanted to say I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I hope that you are doing ok and I am thinking of you. I wish there were something I could do!

After "knowing" TF for so many years, it was shocking to hear the news. I'm heartbroken.

Much love to you and your daughter, TF.

Prayers and hugs out to you and your daughter TF. I am so sorry for your loss.

I am so very sorry. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your daughter.

TF, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. My heartfelt sympathies to you and your daughter.

Sending my heartfelt sympathy, prayers and strength.

oh wow. THat's horrible.
I'm so sorry to hear that.
Hugs and prayers to you TF and your daughter.

I am so sorry to hear this. That is very sad. You and your daughter are in my thoughts and prayers TF.

Condolences TF. My heart is breaking for you and your daughter.

I am incredibly sorry for your loss TF. My thoughts & prayers are with you and your daughter as you navigate through this time.

Thoughts and prayers to you TF

Hugs TF .... Sending prayers for you and your daughter.

I am so sorry to hear of your tragic loss. My heart goes out to you and your family.

I'm so very sorry to hear of your loss TF. Thinking of you and wishing you peace and comfort while you grieve.

TF, so sorry to read of your husbands passing. While many of us don't know each other in person, it's nice that we all pull together in support for each other. I hope that our words have given you comfort, & pray for you & your daughter to find a peace together as you cherish his memory. *hugs* T.

I am so very sorry to hear what happened T.F. I know you are devastated. You will be in our thoughts and I pray you and Erin find strength in each other. I cannot fathom your heartbreak. You will be in my thoughts. I am so so sorry.

TF, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband. Sudden passings can be especially hard on the family so I truly hope you and your daughter can find some time for yourselves among the many things you will have to handle right now. I really feel for you and your daughter at this tough time.

I am so very sorry, TF. You and your family are in my prayers.

TF - I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. I will remember you and your daughter in my evening prayers!

TF, I just saw this and wanted to add my condolences. It's especially hard when it's sudden. I'm glad you have local support. You and your daughter are in my thoughts and prayers.

TF/Plano Allen, I'm so sorry for your loss. My thoughts and good vibes go out to you and your daughter and other family members.

Just seeing this now - TF, thoughts and prayers are with you.

My deepest condolences to TF Plano/Allen and her daughter.