Ok...I'm jumping the gun a little bit here because I'm not sure if I'm pregnant yet or not. We have been trying for 6 months and I think I may be, but too soon to test. What do you think would be better. I know when I test I'm going to be ecstatic and soooo excited, so should I just tell him right then and let him share in my joy, or should I give him a card that says... Dear Daddy, I cannot wait to meet you. Mommy thinks I'll be here around ______. Please take off work that day so you can take mommy to the doctor and hold me for the first time. Love, Your Baby I think the card idea is cute, but I know how I will be when I get that big fat positive and I know I'll probably be crying and jumping up and down with excitement. So I don't know which one I should do! Please let me know of any advice you can give! Thank you!
We always did the test together. I would take it when we were both there and then read the test together. Just a thought.
It sounds like you either need to do the test when he's not around or tell him immediately! He will want to share in that excitement and if it's not a positive you may want him to be there too. I have my fingers crossed for you, but keep in mind that you will want him to be part of it either way!
Wow- I am the wrong person to answer this. Every time I have been prego, I always have trouble sleeping and am very anxious. End up getting up around 3 or 4am and testing and it is positive and I tell him then. The first time he thought he dreamed it (I went to work before he got up that day) :)
I love the card idea -- it is so cute BUT I could never wait that long to tell.
Maybe think of a cute way to tell extended family instead -- that is what we do. Currently getting ready to announce number 3 (EDD May 19th) this weekend :)
Best wishes and Good Luck!
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I would let him know when you are taking the test and look at the results together.
I love the card idea (if you can wait that long)....the way I told my mom I was pregnant the first time (and her first time being a grandmother) was to buy a picture frame that said "Best Grandma Ever" (or something like that) and put her picture in it! It was so much fun to watch it register on her face what it all meant...If you want to do the card idea, just write it out ahead of time so you can just give it to him right away! Let us know how it all turns out....Good luck!!!
Why can't you do both? Take the test. Have the card ready. Instead of writing an exact date, write "Mommy thinks I'll be here around the middle of July. Please make sure you can take some time off of work so that you can take mommy to the doctor . . . "
Congrats (I hope, at least!). I did it with my husband there. I peed on the stick and handed it to him. I didn't look at it. I let him be the one to watch the little line appear. It was great :)
When I found out I was expecting #3 (after he had told me he did NOT want a third child...) I really did not know WHAT to tell him. So, I didn't, for a week. And then one night he asked me if I should use my diaphragm and I said, "Um...no. I, uh, haven't had a period in like five or six weeks". He stared at me, squinted one eye and asked, "So, is it menopause?" I shook my head no and that was that. I never said I was pregnant and he never asked if I was. I had a baby 41 weeks later so obviously it was not menopause. With the other five pregnancies I just told him. (I had two miscarriages and a tubal in case you are doing the math.)
Whichever way you tell him will be uniquely YOUR way to do it.
K.
