So I just found out that I'm pregnant. Me and My boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. So I wanted to do a kinda neat way of letting him know I wont see him for another mouth (We usually see each other a lot for long distance) so I don't really want to tell him over the phone. I wanna kinda send me something but I just can't think of anything. So I'm asking two questions. How did you tell your baby's daddy he was gonna be a dad? and How should I let my Boyfriend know?
Sorry for the confusing I am using my mother's account because when I asked her how I should let him know she told me to get on here and ask. But However I am NOT the 17 year old daughter that would be my younger sister. I am about to be 27 years old, Me and my boyfriend have been together for 7 years. I plan on telling him over the phone but I and going to end him a gift and tell him to call me before he opens it and thats when I am going to tell him. I will be sending the gift out tomorrow and it should be get there by Tuesday hopefully, So I will come back on here then and let all you mothers know what happened.
So What Happened again....I ended up sending him the gift and told me to call him before he got it but a usually he doesn't listen! So He called when I called him to see if he has got anything he told me no a few mins later there was a knock at my door...It was him holding flowers and crying... I asked why he was crying and he said it was tears of joy and we're planning to move in together by Sept. (:
Do you have Skype? It's free and you can tell him face to face over the internet even though you are long distance. You can send the gift and you can watch him open it.
Hopefully I don't come off as rude, but I am wondering if you are using your mother's account. The prior questions have been deleted, but it's obvious from the 50+ responses that it was a concerned mother of a (potentially) sexually active 16 year old teenage girl. If so, I do hope you will let your mom know that you are pregnant so that you can get the proper prenatal attention you need and discuss the very real-life considerations needed to be made.
Added: thank you for your So What Happened.
You might want to get your own account so as to not cause confusion in the future. I think we were all a bit appalled to think that a 17 year old was asking this question!
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My husband stood over my shoulder as we watched the home pregnancy test do its thing and show the "positive" color. Both our children were planned down to the day of their birth, so my positive test was not a surprise to either of us.
I think you should pick up the phone, dial your boyfriend's number and tell him. You can do fun and cutesy when you see him in a month. You two have MUCH to discuss and only 36 or so weeks to work through it all. It seems like a lot of time now, but, trust me, it's not. Do not delay.
Good luck. I think you're going to need it...
Personally? I don't know how old you are - but if memory serves me correctly - you are young.
I wouldn't be having a child out of wedlock....this is why they say save sex for marriage.....you need to talk with your mom and let her know what's going on and what your plan is.
Do you think your boyfriend will be excited about this news?
Does this pregnancy affect his life plans?
Have you talked about being parents before?
Do you both understand how much it costs to raise a baby?
I told my HUSBAND that I was pregnant from the Drs office - we had been trying for almost 4 years. I was too excited to wait to get home.
I would temper a conversation with my BOYFRIEND about our future....how does he feel about kids? when did HE think a good time to have kids would be? once you get the conversation rolling - tell him you are pregnant.
good luck.
Man, that was fast. In May your mom was asking about whether or not to give you birth controll.
I second what Paige said. Please tell your mom and talk it over with her as well as your boyfriend.
Good luck to you
When I told my husband, I always made a point of it to wait for him to get home from work. With our first, I greeted him AT the door with a loooong kiss and when his knees started to buckle I said, "Which form of address do you like better...'daddy' or 'papa'?".
He almost fainted. ;)
With the next five kiddos I greeted him at the door with the long kiss, too. Now he knows that when I kiss him like THAT, there's a baby on the way! :)
You could send him a "congratulations on your new baby!" card? Or perhaps a letter with a swatch of pink and blue fabric and say "which one for the nursery?".
I like the idea of sending baby booties, too!
Well... Father's Day is coming up! ;)
Are you sure that he's going to approve of a pregnancy? I'd wait and tell him while you're together so that you can work out feelings, both positive and negative, that go along with an unplanned pregnancy.
I would send him a fathers day card or Ecard and sign it your name and "jr"
I've always wanted to send one of these http://pub32.bravenet.com/postcard/post.php?usernum=27116... I like the "Roses and red, violets are blue, I saw two pink lines, in nine months I'm due!" LOL But then, we have four kids, so maybe with the first I wouldn't do something like that. For our first, I bought a card and put the pregnancy test in it. :) Then we went out to dinner.
Congrats!
I would send him a card on Fathers day!
Sweetie,
Talk to your Mom first.
I say this as a mother of a teen boy, and I would want to know if he "got" a girl pregnant so I could help him act responsibly and compassionately.
You need to get pre-natal counseling and explore your options. You need to realize that he may not be thrilled about this pregnancy (I take it you are both young). You will need your family's support with this.
Good Luck
God Bless
EDIT: Woosh! I think I am relieved. And I owe you a heartfelt and belated congratulations. That being said, what about mailing him a pair of baby booties with a Father's Day card?
Oh, and since you are expecting - please start your own MP account so you can tap into the knowledge of all the wonderful Moms on here.
:)
You could have a local floral company around him deliver flowers for congrats daddy or something to that affect. Or flowers with a balloon that says we're expecting and have a card attached to it signed with your name so he doesn't think the delivery guy is crazy :P
I just told my ex, but I lived with him at that point. I called him and told him while he was at work and he was jumping around his warehouse screaming excitedly lol.
That's so true Christi, you should do it on father's day if you do something exciting.
Yay, tell him your sending him something but not to open it and then set up skype so you can see it :D
What are you sendin him? I'm so curious now, or nosy... whichever lol.
Picture frame.
Put a piece of cute paper in it and say "Place picture of your new baby here" or something like that. Works for the new grandparents too. Wrap it up and give it as a gift.
Is this the Mom (adult) or the Teenageer posting this? I am confused.
A friend of mine decorated the living room with baby things. She bought diapers, wipes, a couple of little sleepers, a couple pair of baby socks, and a rattle. She arranged everything in his chair and on the coffee table, with a big "Congrats Daddy" sign on the television.
When he walked in he was so surprised, but very happy. And I always thought it was a cute way of telling him the good news.
Personally, I would wait till you see him in person, so he can give you his full reaction face-to-face. I would purchase some really cute baby shoes and wrap them up. Present them to him and tell him we will be needing these for the future.....see what he says. Congrats!!!!!
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My friend had one of those giant pan cookies personalized with Congratulations, Daddy....maybe you could do something like that? It would be so nice to actually see his reaction, but I understand that waiting an entire month would be very hard! Do you have access to Skype?
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