I don't have a teenager yet, but I was one not too long ago, I was wild and unruly. What settled me down was my first son at 17. I hope that's not your case, but it was then that my parents hard work really showed. I stepped up, straitened up, graduated early, got a job, and new right them that I wanted nothing else in this world but to be the best mom I could be. To this day it is the thing I cherish most, it is my hobby, who I am, and I would be so lost without motherhood. Anyways now being on the other side, obviously I want the best for my kids, and would like to help shape them into well rounded adults.It is difficult to say what I would do, but I have to tell you honestly I think id make their lives hell! Looking back I think I had too much freedom.(and I did not have much) I know that at that age things get to be real hard as a parent. You ground your child, they run away, or sneak out I realize that there are huge challenges at this age.Just think in a year he will be 18 and then they can do whatever he wants. If it were me I would tighten the reigns. absolutely no freedom without parental supervision until it is earned and then give it sparingly. I like the suggestion of having him get a job this will also be great because while he's out of school at least he will have his foot in the door somewhere and can bump up to full time.Help him find a healthy hobby. If he is going to continue to live under your roof have him contribute.Do not kick him out, he would like that. when I had my son I lived with my dad, we did not make any verbal contracts but I felt I had the responsibility to do whatever I could. What ended up happening was my dad would stay home with my son (he works from home) and I would work (3-4 jobs sometimes). I would bring home the money, give all most every bit of it to my dad for bills and groceries I would by my son something nice so that I felt like I had some rewards for earning the money. I would clean the house before and after work each day. And when I was home I spent every possible moment looking after MY son, being with him, playing with him. My son is my angel, he taught me so much and allowed me to step up and be the wonderful person I was not letting shine. Obviously not a goal any parent has for their teenager, I understand that. But perhaps if you could enforce a strict setting of chores, work and earning things. earn you right to go out, earn you right to leave. earn your freedom. He is older now but you are still MOM! Maybe while enforcing rules you could find ways to become closer to him, open up and talk with him, be his friend too. Even if he does not want to go out of the house and be seen hanging out with mom, go to a different town and do something fun, go ride roller coasters together! have a pillow fight in the living room. Have him teach you something, if he likes to skateboard or bike ride or what ever he is into, show an interest, tell him you would like to learn from him and really try to have fun with it. Don't forget to tell him he can always talk to you, and that you love him no matter what! I hope I am not totally crazy or scaring you, I hope this helps! I really do. I wish you the best. And please know that while this time can be so hard on a parent, that it is perfectly normal behavior (helps shape us for adulthood) and reach back and give yourself a pat on the back MOM because you deserve it!