Talking to Friend on Telephone - 7 y.o. Spits on Her for Not Getting Off!

I dont believe in spanking but if my dd ever spit in my face for not getting off the phone I think that would change my mind... kind of like the time she ran away from me in a busy parkinglot.

Well, if I was in your position, I'd tell my friend to call me back after she disciplined her child.
If I was the one being spat on by my offspring I'd tell my friend I'll call her back after spanking my child.
I don't know what possessed this kid to think she should spit on anyone let alone her mother for getting attention, but if she were mine she'd be getting a whole lot of attention on her behind and then she could think about it in her room until she was ready to apologize.

OH MY GOODNESS!
A SEVEN year old???? (Different rules for a toddler, but by age 7 they know better!) My son would receive a spanking for that. And I'm not huge on "corporal punishment", but that would be a time for it.

Of course, I'd have to get off the phone, send him to his room, and calm myself down before I could go through the process of explaining calmly WHAT he did wrong, WHY it was wrong, HOW he was going to be punished, WHEN he'd get punished, and then wait until I had my head on straight. But believe me, my son would not spit on me twice unless he had something mentally wrong with him. Like a deathwish.

If I were the one on the phone with someone whose kid did that, I'd say "Oh, I'll let you go handle that. Call me later" and hang up quickly so she can be free to discipline her child.

I am not going to post what I would have done because my post would be flammed! Not cool at all....

My theory is if the child treats a parent that way how on earth will/do they treat others? I am asking this question seriously do they know that that can just get a way with this behavior from the parent?

Ohh forgive me! your question was how would YOU react? I would have just hung the phone up on her so that she would be forced to handle that, and when/if she asked why did you just hang up my answer would have been just that. That was not cool and I figure you had to handle that right a way..

How would I react? Do you mean if I were YOU on the other end of the call, or if I were HER and my child did that to me?

If I were you, I would say, "well you obviously need to get off the phone to address that" and politely excuse myself from the call.

If I were her, umm.. welllll, I wouldn't BE her. End of story. Would never happen.

I hope she handles it so the child has no question in her mind that that behavior is not acceptable. If she doesn't correct that VERY quickly, there is no telling what the child will do when she is a teenager.

I can tell you that if my child did this I would not tolerate it at all. And I would be even more aggressive if one of my children did this to my wife.

The trouble is you can't do anything to the girl because she isn't yours. I can tell you that if the child did this as an adult, she could be arrested and charged with a felony.

Good luck to you and yours.

If there is one thing I can't stand, it's kids interrupting or acting up and horsing around and screaming when someone is on the phone.

My kids never would NEVER have done the interrupting, let alone the spitting, while I was on the phone. I'd have ripped their little heads off. Not literally, but I'm not kidding. From the time they were little, they knew better. I had to take business calls at home quite often and they knew better.

I've had friends whose kids are terrible when they are on the phone. I don't know how they stand it, but I can't. I just come right out and tell them to call me back when they've got the kids settled down.
I work with a woman whose kids act like that and she was on-call the other night, there was a crisis and she called me for help. She was on the other line with one of our clients and her kids were screaming like savages!
She knows how I feel about her kids acting like that when she's on the phone and I just came right out and told her that if she didn't get control of her kids that she shouldn't be on call anymore. I know it's hard after business hours when all the calls are getting forwarded to you, but seriously, that is so horribly unprofessional. They know the difference between mommy's phone and the business phone. There is no reason in the world why they can't settle down and be quiet while she takes a business call.
I wasn't trying to hurt her feelings. If I was that client, I would complain. In which case, she would likely lose her nights on call which is strictly overtime and she depends on that money.

It's not cute, funny, precocious, high-spirited or strong-willed, it's rude. The spitting thing? Wow.
My friend....the one whose kids scream when she's on the phone? She called me the other night and told me she'd gone to the store, went to pay and her debit card was missing. She searched the parking lot, searched all through the car, the house. It was gone. In the morning, she reported it lost and had both hers and her husband's cards cancelled in case someone found it and tried to use it.
A few days later, Grandma was over and she was talking about what a pain it all was and how she couldn't believe she'd lost her card. One of her kids brought it out and handed it to her. She'd taken it out of Mommy's purse and hidden it in her closet.
I just shook my head in disbelief.

Sometimes there's just nothing you can say.

Just my opinion.

I am with Nikki G. That SEVEN year old has been getting away with way more then that, that is why she spit, she has no respect for her mother at all. Disgusting......

I would probably say to her, "well guess I should let you go sounds like your daughter is in need of a good spanking!" ok well not sure if I would have the nerve to say it, but.... I am also glad to see the parents on here not afraid of giving there child a spanking and admitting it! Lots of flowers for u!