Tacky to Register for Baby #2? - Minneapolis,MN

Sorry I think you should have a shower and registry! All babies are meant to be celebrated! And maybe you didn't keep everything the first time. Even if you did, there's newer, more advanced baby items coming out all the time. I woul do what you thought and just tell people if they ask. You don't have one birthday party for both kids, so why just one shower?! :)

I wouldn't hesitate at all! People LOVE to shop for babies! Every baby deserves some new things right? Register away mama!

I say register! I did saved me time telling everyone what we might want for baby #2...and I have to disagree with a poster about stuff is ment to be kept...there's almost 6 years between my kids and the older one is a boy and I just had a girl. So ya didn't save a thing...and we didn't decide to have another baby til about 2 years ago. I also think that babies are ment to be celebrated :) my ex SIL is having her 4th and I cant wait to see what's on hers so I can buy something :) congrats on the baby

Register, but keep things on the simple side. For example, a new car seat/stroller combo. Even IF you still have yours from baby #1, regulations on them have changed enough that you would want or possibly need a new one, depending on how long in between kids. Baby monitors have come a long way too in the last few years, as have cribs (many older styles have re-calls), playpens and high chairs.

By no means should you skip the registry or shower for baby #2. He deserves the special little somethings from those people wishing to welcome him to your family. Enjoy the time, and CONGRATULATIONS!!!!

I think you should go ahead and register because it really helps those people who want to buy you something!

I agree that baby showers or sprinkles for second children make you seem greedy--I get annoyed at people who invite me to lavish parties for their second, third, fourth children. I feel like I'm being expected to furnish all their stuff for all their kids! I feel that showers are for the MOTHER, to celebrate her being pregnant with her first child.

However, I do love being invited to "meet the baby" parties because I think all children should be celebrated. And I do love buying gifts for those when my pocketbook permits and a registry would help out.

Just tell those who ask directly about presents, and I wouldn't announce it anywhere. That way it's helpful to those who want to buy gifts, but you don't seem like you're fishing for presents.

tacky. unless baby number two is a surprise and coming 10+ years after the first one. if someone asks and the only thing you really need is diapers then say diapers. nothing wrong with that and then if they all buy the same size you can return them and get bigger / smaller whatever you need.

tacky beyond belief.

I have to say that I do think it is a bit tacky to register for a second baby, especially since it would probably be the same people from baby number one.

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Congratulations!!!! I had two baby showers and registered two times:) each baby is special and each pregnancy should be celebrated.

If you have people asking then I think it's okay to have one for that case - only mention it if people ask.

I wouldn't register.......you can tell close family what you need.

Hmmmm, I would feel totally bad registering somewhere. You should not need anything for a second baby in my opinion, the operative word being "need". As in car seat, stroller, high chair, baby bed, etc...all those things are expected to be kept.

Then there are clothes. I would say tell them it's supposed to be a boy and what every they'd like would be fine. Make a comment about how cute Babies R us new clothes are or something like that. It gives them an idea and makes them feel important since you responded.

I think it's wonderful you are having a baby, congratulations!

It's OFF the Tacky-Meter, it's so tacky! LOL

Just say: "You know, we really do have everything we need from Johnny, so there's nothing we really 'need'. Thanks for asking."

That will give them the go ahead to buy something they WANT to buy 'just because it's adorable-practical-sweet and they'll KNOW you're not in dire straights for a mobile or Boppy!

A registry is not a "Hey, I'm having another baby so go buy us this" list. IMO, a registry is simply a list of ideas of what you like that people can use to help them decide on a gift they WANT to get you anyway. Might as well have the list available in case someone asks.

I am having my 3rd baby shower this saturday, I registered for all 3. i dont see it as rude.

lol, so i read some of the other responses on here, IDK where yall are from, or how some people are so uppity, but where im from, we party, we get together, we eat, we buy things for people and dont think its rude. i have been to several baby showers, some for first timers, some for #2 and #3. Its a reason to get togther, eat, play games, buy baby stuff, i mean seriously, who doesnt like to buy baby stuff? and If you dont, thats fine, that doesnt mean you cant come to the baby shower. I dont get tghis site. everybody is so critical, like everything has to be a certain way, when it doesnt. like I said, my shower is Saturday for my #3, and guess what... all Girls. my aunt is having her baby shower next month for her # 3 also.. I know, were so tacky lol...
baby showers are for babies, and if you need things, even if you can afford them, and people want to shower the baby with gifts, whats the issue.. do i expect people to buy me a new crib adn new stroller system wich i need??? No, i will get that on my own, but bottles, diapers, clothes, cute little things for her room.. why not

I think registries in general are tacky.

I don't believe in second showers or registries for a 2nd child (or even 1st really) but if people are asking, that's different. If someone asks say, "oh, don't worry about it but some people have been asking so I finally registered at XYZ for a few things but really, we're pretty well set. That way you're not being at all greedy or dictating where people need to buy you something or what they should get you - just giving a low key option bc they asked.

no way would i register. my cousin is having #2 (S. in 2 years) and she's having a diaper shower and i'm hearing snarky comments from family. nope. what i am hearing is totally convincing me i'd NEVER want those things said behind MY back! "she decided to have a baby, she can buy her own diapers. didn't she figure out how much it costs after the first one? why are we buying them diapers, doesn't that sort of come with having a baby? she still has all her stuff from the first one! you don't get showers after #1!"

not very nice of them, i know. and they're not even talking about registering, they're just talking about a diaper shower. doesn't change the fact that that is how many people feel.

I would go ahead and register for the things you need and want, it's also just a great way to keep track of what you need to get. If I was buying a gift for someone, I would feel better knowing it was something that they wanted rather than something they probably already have. It kind of saves people time as well.

I think it's tacky, but do it for fun and tell people if they ask.

I dont see how its tacky if you're not telling people and J. giving the info if they ask. ow is that being greedy? Its not like you're sending notes out and also its not like they have to buy something J. because its there

Incredibly tacky period! If someone asks what you need definitely answer truthfully.....I did not register for baby #2 or #3. My first was a girl followed by two boys!

I don't get these responses.

When people ask about a second baby shower, MP moms are all for it. But when it comes to registering for it, they're not? How does that make sense? (And yes, I know the OP is not having a shower - my question is how can having a shower be okay if the mom can't register for it because it's tacky?)

Personally, I find a second shower to be tacky - barring certain situations, of course (new baby way after older... uh, that's about it...). However, I plan to create a basic registry with crib sheets, receiving blankets, maybe a few clothes or other small things just in case someone wants to pick up something and goes looking for a registry.

I don't plan on having a second shower (though they want to throw me one at work and my SIL has apparently been discussing it despite my objections) because I don't like them. But I do plan on having a "meet the baby party" and if people are like me, they'll want to pick something up for the baby. If they look for a registry to see what I need, I'd like there to be one. If they don't, no big deal.

On top of that, for some registries, you get coupons to complete the registry after the due date. As long as you're not passing out cards with where you're registered, I don't understand how it's tacky if people are asking.

No I do not think it is rude to register for baby number 2, as long as you dont tell people that you are registered unless they ask. I registered for my second child, even though I still had a lot of things from when my first daughter was a baby, there were still things that I needed. I did not have a second shower nor did I want that, but I knew that people would still want to get the baby something so I did register, and only if they asked, I would tell them that I had a registery. My reasoning was that, people were going to be getting me things anyway, so they might as well get me something that I needed, instead of wasting their money on something I don't need. Whatever was left at the end, I just bought myself.

tacky's a little strong. maybe just think about some basics so you have a nice ready answer, like 'pampers are my favorite brand!' or 'you can never have enough onesies, can you?' and let it go at that.
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I think it depends a lot on what sex you already have, and what you are having now.

I have a 6 ½ month old girl, and I am a 17 weeks pregnant with a BOY.

If I was having a girl. I would NOT register, and I would probably just have a ‘Diapers and Wipes’ shower.

But, seen as I am having a boy, and I don’t want him in everything PINK. I will register.

A new bumbo, bassinet, a bathtub, wash clothes, clothes, towels, high chair, bedding, etc. Are all things I would gear towards putting on my registry? The big items would more than likely be bought by family. But, I got a bumbo seat, bathtub, high chair, etc from close friends when I had my baby girl.

I plan on using my daughters’ carseat for the new baby, and getting a new cover for it.

People LOVE buying baby stuff. But, if you already have everything you need. Then I would not register. If you only need essentials….diapers, wipes, bath stuff, etc.
Then I would mention that ON the invitation….that way people know what to buy you. Like I said if I was having a girl I would not have a big old shower, and big old registry. My daughter is 6 months old!! Its all new stuff!
So, I guess it also depends on how far apart your kids are.

Main thing….if your registry would be usefull, use it. If not, mention on the invitation that diapers (sizes newborn, 1, and 2), wipes, and grooming equipment would be extremely helpful as we have everything else we need.

Register but do so quietly. If one asks,, you where you are registered tell them but do not announce it as an expectation for gifts. If one asks if there is anything you need, thank them for thinking of you and have a simple answer of a basic item that is inexpensive as they didn't ask you for your dream list just a need. The registry for your sake should include basics that do not last baby to baby diapers, wipes, baby wash, baby tylenol, motrin. The reason for this registry will be more of a list for you and no one else generally stores will offer a coupon at the end of items still on your list. However don't expect gifts or shower for a second as it expecting others to supply your life choices so don't be offended when others wish you well instead of an offering of gift.

If you were having a girl then I'd say register, but since you're having the same gender and you don't need anything, then yes, I think registering is tacky.

If someone asks what you need, tell them you could always use diapers, wipes, baby shampoo...the stuff that you'll go through and don't keep from one baby to the next.

I think it is important that you register for the things that you still need, even if it is only a few basic things and diapers. For the people who insist on buying things, it helps them not waste time picking out things that you won't use or don't need. A huge benefit to a registry even if you don't tell anyone is that you create a list of what you want to buy and the extra benefits the store you choose gives you. Target for example, will send you a coupon for 10% off anything in your registry around the time you list your party date. And, it doesn't have to be baby items!! (I added a TV to my registry just before I used the coupon!) You can also tell people that you have registered for yourself, so you could remember the things that you still need and are waiting to go on sale or to purchase with the extra discount so they feel less pressured to buy something if you think they are just asking out of courtesy.
Another benefit to the Target registry is that any gift returns or exchanges that you need to make are hassle free and not limited.

I think if they ask, they truly want to give you something. I'd definitely take all the diapers and wipes I could get. Be specific -- say, you know, since it's our 2nd boy, we have the basics. Diapers or wipes would be great! You can even tell them a size. If there is a bigger item, I would save that for really close friends or family to chip in for. Congrats!

I'm there with you too.. my son is 5 and we are expecting another one in september. I have a lot of the basics - crib, high chair, bouncers, jumparoo, walkers, toys, etc., but need a lot of the necessities - clothes, bottles, sheets,blankets (if it's not a boy), etc. I don't like the idea of registering for a second one - or even having a shower be thrown. I have a bunch of co-workers talking about a little shower - and I keep saying "no - it's not necessary" and family asking about throwing a diaper shower (but i feel that is my responsibility for having a baby - to diaper my own kid). I'm not a huge fan of second showers - especially since we have a lot of the big ticket items already. I'm sticking to no registry, no shower, no diaper shower. However, if people buy anything for my baby (and i don't want them to feel like that have too), i will be very appreciative to their thoughtful gesture.

Babies are to be celebrated - and I feel just coming to see my baby and spend time with the new addition is a great gift - I don't want anyone to feel obligated to buy for me.

Thank you for asking this! I'm currently struggling with the same question, but my son is 5 and I'm expecting a little girl this summer! My 14 year old step daughter has made it very plain that she want's to help plan a baby shower, even though my inclination was to not have one for this baby. She made her wish known to my best friend, so I guess I will just have to wait and see what happens! I still don't know if I'm going to regester or not, though...