I think breastfeeding is super overrated. But completely understand your pain. I had a lot of people, including my mom, tell me not to touch my breasts, yes you are engorged and in a lot of pain but if you start messing with them you will lactate and just produce more milk.
Well let me tell ya sister, I would be sitting in a chair minding my own business when my shirt would suddenly become soaked with milk. Those breastpads you can buy at Babies R us or Walmart or Target, the cute little sand dollar shaped ones? Yeah those are a joke. I ended up using a sports bra stuffed with maternity underwear I never used (big enough to absorb what was leaking out) and ice packs. It sucked SO bad. My boobs were rock hard and on fire for about a week.
And of course my mom had her kids in the late 70's, never took pain killers short of ibuprofen and never had an epidural with any of her kids, so I had no real sympathy, it was a "suck it up and deal with it" thing!
Just hang in there, you'll dry up and feel a lot better soon. I feel for you!!