Here we go again - dad is complaining about our 2 yr 5 month old son being constipated. I had enough of hearing about this and listening to him tell me that he gave our son another suppository, so I booked a doctors appointment and we BOTH went. The doctor didn't even know how Dad was as this was the first visit that Dad has even been at. Besides the point, the doctor listened to dad and then listened to my side. The doctor agreed with me that our son does not have any constipation issues. Doctor told dad to back off and realize that children our son's age do not poo every single day and that they do have different consitancy bowel movements when they do go. Well dad didn't like that answer so he continued on his marry way of doing what ever he wants while he has our son. He still gives him suppositories when he feels it's necessary. Dad has even gone so far as to call Child Services on me making a 'complaint' that I am negleting our sons constipation issues. Well let me tell you that woman got an ear full when I got that phone call. I explained that the doctor even agrees that there is no issue! And the complaint was dropped as they know me and know that I am a good mother. So is there going to be any long term issues (physically or mentally) from dad giving our son the suppositoties? Also is he really the 'unfit/ neglectful' father for going against the doctor and still giving our son these suppositotires??
He's being overprotective and stubborn for sure, but I wouldn't say that this one issue about him misreading your son's bowel movements makes your son's father unfit to parent.
I would probably get a written doctor's note about this and call your lawyer. If you have to, bring it to court and have it addressed by the judge.
The long term effect of giving your son suppositories is that your son's bowels will become dependant upon them to do a bm. It's not healthy to keep pushing these things in him all the time. If anything, your husband is causing harm to your son's body. Suppositories are not to be taken lightly, especially in such a young age. Kids don't poop every single day. As long as he is having at least 3 days where he is having a BM and they are not hard as a rock, then he is not constipated.
I think it's weird that your husband is pushing this. Maybe you should call child services on him for endangering your child.
This is not good, and yes there could be long term effects... Dad is giving your son suppositories as folly and it's absurd. I hope he's lying to you about it and not really doing it. Dad sounds very weird. Usually the last thing parents want to do to their kids is administer a suppository.
I'd head to court with this, make sure you have written info from your doc.
Sounds abusive and borderline perverted to me.
Good luck.
Huh. I would also ask the doctor... just to be safe. If the doctor says that it can cause issues, and his dad STILL insists on giving him suppositories, then I would move on to talking to a lawyer.
In the meantime, maybe you can start trying to get your son poopy before sending him to Dad's house... Like the day before you send him, feed him a LOT of high-fiber foods. (Not enough to give him diarrhea, but enough to ensure that he has a big soft poo while he is at Dad's...)
http://www.livestrong.com/article/22966-foods-relieve-con...
If you are unsure about what foods will make him go, this link has some good suggestions. :)
This issue has become a power struggle between mom and dad, and is no longer about your son's health. Drop the subject and so will he.
I would think that having suppositories so often as a child would leave a lasting negative impression on the child.
If I were you, I would call the doctor and ask this question and if the doctor thinks there might be some long term issues because of it, I would call my lawyer and get back into court to get a court order that he CANNOT give suppositories unless specifically ordered by a doctor.
Suppositories are no fun - I feel for your little guy!
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Wow! Wow! I'm not quite sure what to say except that your child's father has some serious issues. I don't know what the law is on this, but I'd find out. I would also get a second and even a third doctor's opinion to support you. I believe your child's father's behavior is going to leave some lasting damaging issues if he continues this obsession.
All 3 of my kids have constipation issues to varying degrees - must be genetic because their one and only cousin has the same problem. Prunes, pears, extra fiber, juice - none of it helped. My second child has it the worst, and there was a brief period when I gave her Pedialax suppositories to help her go. The reason I gave it to her was because she'd cry and cry from the pain of being constipated. The suppositories worked like a charm, but I knew it was only a temporary fix. Doctor suggested medication because it's not good to regularly give kids suppositories. My daughter goes daily now because she is on medication. My first child used to get constipated and would cry as well because he would hold it in for 5 days. He is now regular and goes every 2-3 days without pain. That is his regular cycle. I'd recommend telling your doctor all your concerns.
