Suggestions for Pierced Ears

Is she a sound sleeper? If you're convinced that there is no infection, can you put the other earring in during the night when she can't flinch or fight you? If it goes in easily, great. If it doesn't, then stop. If that doesn't work, see if she'll agree to letting you numb the lobe with 2 small ice cubes (one in front, one in back). When it's numb (and you can tell by squeezing it a little) put the other earring in.

If the knob is big, then she could have scar tissue in there. You're positive it's not a reaction to the post itself, right? Some people have problems with nickel in the alloys. You could try switching to surgical stainless steel.

Otherwise try to get her to stop feeling she's a disappointment in any way. Let her know that some people's skin reacts to piercings. If you have to repierce, maybe have a doctor do it?

Good luck!

I have this same problem, every time I pierce my ears. I get a knot at the pierce site, have to take out the earrings and let it heal a bit, then push them back in . It does hurt just a bit at first but once you break through the small closing, it is fine again. If she got the piercings done with a gun, the earrings should be pointed and should not be a problem to just push in. But if her ear hurts just touching it, I would get it checked to make sure no infection inside.
You can numb the ear a bit with ice before pushing the earring in. One of my girls used to have this problem and would have trouble find the back part of the hole to push the earring through. It would hurt a bit when she did not have it straight through.

Sounds like the hole has closed up. That's why it hurts. I would go back to the place who did the piercing and ask them what they think about the knot. They have more experience than most of us.

I found that it was easy to put the post sidewise instead of straight thru. This does hurt because doing that is pushing the post into tissue that wasn't pierced. Perhaps the knot is scar tissue.

We used Campho-Phenique on all the kids ears every day a couple of times per day. It is a pain killer and it kills germs. It's an oil so it spreads in the hole too.

If she has infection in the hole and it's sealed on each side you need to numb it up a bit and poke an earring through one side then push to see if pus comes out. If so then use some Triple Antibiotic ointment on it but make sure it goes in the hole too.

This way it will heal the infection. I got the girls ears pierced pretty young and I took care of them so this didn't happen to theirs.

She could be allergic to nickel. It's a common metal used in inexpensive jewelry because it's cheap and malleable. A lot of people are allergic to it, including my daughter. Getting her nickel free jewelry solved the problem.

well, the first thing i would do would be to have her doctor (NOT the piercing staff) look at her ear and get the knot taken care of, or at least identified.
once you're sure it really ISN'T a problem, then i'd leave it up to her to handle. wearing one earring isn't a problem, is it? that wouldn't bother me, but her complaints of pain would be something i would never let pass.
she won't worry about disappointing if you make it clear to her that you're not disappointed.
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take care of the issue with the knot and the pain it's causing her by having a medical professional deal with it, and then let her make up her mind about how she wants to wear jewelry.
if she decides to hold off until she's older (sensible) i would only take her to a good clean professional piercer at a well-recommended shop, not some skanky kiosk in the mall.
khairete
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