S.M.
Hmmm, I would be more worried about the lying!!!! This is more a problem than the ADHD. yes it is behavorial and yes it manipulates that should be your first issue to take care of and it may even slow down some of her ADHD as she is smart enough toknow when to use it and when not. I grew up hyper and did not have drugs nor any extra hand things to keep me busy-my mother worked very hard to teach me how to focus and stay on task-it worked I finshed college and hold a great job today and even have time to relax (ok my relaxing is still sometimes busy to some-but it works for me). Get her in counseling and you too for her lying-it can help the whole family for that matter-her Dad and his other gang too. Especially if you want her to have a great childhood and grow up calmer.